How to say no????

[naughtycowgirl]

ok me and this guy are like so into each other. look at my previous post. Well me and him are supposed to meet up tomorrow. he wants me to get naughty. which i dont care, but i dont want to b/c of risk of pregnancy and stds.

[naughtycowgirl]

what should i do and how should i say no. I mean i dont want to sound mean or anything but i will make out w/ him

[swift44]

just tell him youre not ready to go as far as that and that you only want to make out but you arentwilling to take it further, if he really cares he'll understand its simple.

[naughtycowgirl]

k thanks

[darkblue]

I agree. I don't think you should let anyone push you into doing something you're not ready to do or don't want to do.

 

You are quite right, you do run the risk of pregnancy and catching STD's/STI's.

 

Making out is fine as long as it doesn't go any further. Make sure you know what you are doing and are aware of the risks.

[lady00]

Sorry which guy is this? Is this a new interest or is this the one who had the gf? Anyways, never let anyone pressure you. Just be sure of your limits and don't go further than you're ready for. Be firm and say no. Make sure you trust the guy before being alone with him.

[swift44]

with my last ex we didnt do anything only a fww kisses i never pressured ehr or even expected sex, if he's unwilling he probaly isnt worth your time.

[naughtycowgirl]

lady00 wrote

Sorry which guy is this? Is this a new interest or is this the one who had the gf?

 

it is the guy with the gf. but they just recently broke up and he likes me visa versa. But thanks.

[melrich]

Saying "no" to people is hard. When you are young you want to please everyone and you tend to just do what you think the other person wants.

 

Saying "no" is something you learn and comes with maturity. Don't be tempted to say "yes" just because someone asks you for something. You will learn that people that say "yes" to everything in order to please others do not engender a lot of respect and tend to spend their lives being used by others.

[Ontario]

if you don't want to do it, tell him. Like I said, if he respects you at all, he'll understand. If he doesn't...well, you deserve better.

[lady00]

A good rule of thumb is to decide what you want to do before you even start kissing. Talk with him about how far you're willing to go. It's easier for you to make those decisions and stick to them when you're not already all caught up in everything. He's just broken up with someone so it's a good idea to take things really slowly. Why not go on a few dates first before you start getting too into the physical part of the relationship?

[suprema99]

I have to agree with lady00, I didn't read your history. But he's on the rebound if he just broke up first off. It's good you feel not jumping so fast into things like he wants. But make sure he's over this other girl before you get to too involved. He'll drop you most likely , like yesterdays news, if he still wants his ex back. Goodluck