Um, some questions...

[Its Hard To Say]

Lately I've been really lonely, since my boyfriend has broke up with me a while back... And I'm starting to find girls more attractive than guys. I mean, I liked girls more than guys before but not this much. I'm really confused with everything thats going on.

 

So, my question is... Is it common for some one to think they're bisexual, then find out later they're homosexual?

 

And do you think I've only been thinking that because my boyfriend broke up with me?

 

I'm sure its not something thats unheard of. Well, maybe then I won't feel too out of place....

 

Anyway, thanks in advance.

[Tigris]

I'm having the same problem about thinking about women! My problem is I've been married for 13 years and still love my husband although I'm not in love with him.

 

I don't know if it will help but I've got 2 messages in Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgender Forum. The title is 'Help me, I don't understand what sex I am anymore?'

 

If you want to ask any questions while you're on it, feel free to do so.

 

I hope you get sorted out soon.

 

Take care.

[Cadence308]

It is very common for someone who is realizing their feelings for people of the same sex to first admit they are bi and then later just date people of the same sex exclusively. I've done a lot of reading online about this and even ordered cheap, used books from link removed on homosexuality, as I was confused myself over a year ago. Reading everything I could on the subject and joining this site has helped me to understand myself more.

 

One reason I think it may be that people first coming to terms with their same sex attractions first admits that they are bi is because it's safer, esp. if one is a woman. Being bi is not going against the status quo, which is heterosexuality and dating men.

 

When I first came out to myself a little over a year ago I was thinking to myself that I was bi, even though I wasn't outing myself this way to others. I wasn't outing myself at all, period. Then as I started reading more about homosexuality and questioning my own feelings and attractions, I admitted to myself that my attractions to women occur more frequently and more intensely than my attractions to women. Also, I have never had an intimate relationship with a man, physical and/or emotional, so that is another reason that I determined that I am a lesbian.

 

Good luck and I encourage you to do as much reading on the topic, as well. I think it would help you to sort things out.