My brother...

[SilverManic]

I'm so worried about him. He's nearly 18 now and he's has some serious problems. Mainly due to my friend read: link removed

My brother and I suport eachother emotionally and he recently told me he lost his verginity to her. I know it's true because they both said it. I don't know what to think. Should I still be friends with her?

I decided to stay away from the 'tell her boyfriend' type of thing. Because not only would it cause me unwanted stress my brother said he doesn't care. He also said he doesn't think I should be friends with her because she will only use me like she does men. But I've been friends with her for 15 years. How am I ment to make a break like that? I don't even know if I want to or not. But I don't want to make my brother sad.

I haven't got many other friends and she helps me with a lot of my problems.

What am I ment to do?

[darkblue]

You can't help your feelings, he slept with her and now it's over?

 

If so then there's nothing obvious stopping yous being friends. It may be a little awkward at first. But if you are willing, trust and friendship can be rebuilt.

 

the friendship that can cease; was never real.

[lifeiscash]

I can see both sides as to why you would still want to be friends or why in fact, you wouldn't. If it benefits you more to have her as a friend then I say why not.. stay friends with her.. but if it gets to weird because your brother is in the situation then I see why you kinda wouldn't. The choice is yours, you get to decide what you want to do with the friendships. My advice is to do what would benefit you.

[SilverManic]

Thanks for the advice. It's been a bit difficult but I talked to her. I decided 15 years of friendship is a bit much to throw away so I'm giving her the benifit of the doubt. If she cheets on her boyfriend again though i don't know if I will keep my mouth shut. Every guy she's been with she's cheeted on and It's getting a bit more serious now. Thats why I warned my brother away from her.