Should I tell his girlfriend?

[angel200488]

Okay this guy who I use to really like has kind of put our friendship and myself as well on the "back side" this past summer. For my sake and b/c I have met this amazing other guy I have also put a lot of distance between this guy.

 

Well, the problem is this..he keeps calling me and HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!He came from the next town where he lives to mine to "see me" on the 4th of July. I hadn't talked to him in almost 3weeks prior to this. He also has had his friends call me say very sexual and harassing things to me. I wouldn't have a problem talking to him if it was just friendly chat but not a conversation passes by without him discussing what he wants to do with/to me. He keeps tabs on me by asking about me to my friends and he even goes out of his way to see where I am.

 

Okay, should I tell his girlfriend that he is calling me and saying this stuff about me? and If I do, should I confront him first? Thanxs!

[DN]

Tell him you don't appreciate those sort of calls. Don't tell his girlfriend.

 

I have to say that it does seem as if you resent the fact that he put you and your friendship on the 'back side' and that this is some sort of payback for that. Make sure that is not your motivation.

[angel200488]

I have to say that it does seem as if you resent the fact that he put you and your friendship on the 'back side' and that this is some sort of payback for that. Make sure that is not your motivation.

 

Sorry it came accross that way but in a sense I resent the fact that he made it to where we couldn't be friends without him using me and playing with my emotions the way he did. As for a motivation, no I wouldn't intentionally hurt his gf just to get revenge on him. It just aggrivates me and hurts me that he has kind of put me "in the middle" like this and I am afraid that he is going to turn the situation on me..like telling his gf I am the one coming on to him. He is a player and I can't trust him. DN, if you will remember he is actually the same guy I have posted about before..if that gives you any idea of what I was/am dealing with . I will always care for him but I am in so much more of an enjoyable realtaionship with this other guy.

[DN]

OK, well my advice still stands. Tell him to stop calling but don't tell his g/f. If you do, he will deny it and you will look as if you are just trying to cause trouble. And his friends will probably back him up.

[angel200488]

Yeah, thanxs for everything you have helped me through w/this jerk. As for me making it up, I still have all the record of calls and messages he has left on my phone .

[Hope75]

I completely agree with DN. Tell this guy that you are not interested, that he needs to keep his dirty comments to himself or give them to his gf. Obviously you are not going to be able to maintain a platonic friendship with him, but that is not your fault. He is the one who disrespected you and sabotaged your friendship. Time to write him off.

 

You need to take the high road and tell him to get lost, but leave his gf alone, Trust me, if he acts this way, it will eventually catch up to him and his gf will dump his butt when it does. Take care of yourself, and let them worry about themselves.

 

Good luck!