what should i do?

[lipstick]

we have never dated........

i have never liked him........about a year ago, he asked me out , and i lied that i have a boyfriend and i can't go out with him because i don't want to cheat on my boyfriend........i lied , i didn't have a boyfriend, but i lied because i didn't like him...........i go to school with him today , and he keeps on bothering me, he keeps on inviting me , asking me out , calling me , and he even knows that i lied before about my nonexisting boyfriend... (but bestfriend told him when she was drunk , duh)

i really don't like him, but he keeps on bothering me, i could not care , but he now starts to follow me around, and i told him i don't like it, besides he gets gealous when he sees me with guys........than he starts yelling at me , at this guy and everyone around ......this is driving me crazy.....my friend says that i should get a real boyfriend , who can kick his ass.....but i don't want to have a bf...........maybe i should complain to his parents??? i don't know, he is 21 , it probably will look strange if i show up at his house..........what should i do? and i don't want to report to school .......it would look horrible, than no guy will come close to me........

[jna35]

It sounds like he is stalking you and if he isn't going to respect your wishes and leave you alone then I would definitely let the school authorities know about it.

 

I would worry more about your safety then how it will look if you do report him. I think any decent guy would understand and would certainly not avoid you for protecting yourself.

 

How old are you? I was just wondering if maybe your parents could help you.

 

Good luck to you. It sounds like a horrible and scary situation!!

[lipstick]

i am 17

[deRocket5]

not to go against ya, but your first mistake was probably that you lied to him. I'm an honesty freak, so obviously I'm gonna say that what you should have done was tell him that you had no interest in seeing him.

 

What you should definatly NOT do, is get a boyfriend just to beat him up, bc that won't solve anything. While you may not want to, If you feel threatened in any way you should go to someone of or in authority. That should solve things, and you could probably do it anonymously...

 

if this doesn't help...ill try again

 

-guardianofdr-

[jna35]

I think you should talk with your parents and let them help you with this. If you don't feel comfortable with that, he definitely needs to be reported to the school authorities. His behavior is totally unacceptable and rather scary!!!

[Shidoshi]

i don't want to report to school .......it would look horrible, than no guy will come close to me........

That's where you're wrong. Horrible? That a guy is harassing you and you want to take action so he'll stop? It isn't YOU that will look horrible, it's the guy who's pretty much stalking you. Let me ask you, have you told him face-to-face that you DO NOT LIKE HIM? If you haven't, that's the absolute first thing you need to do, and make it very clear that he's making you uncomfortable and you will take necessary action if he continues.

[lipstick]

i've never told him to face that i don't want him

i just run away everyone i see him

thats about it

i hate him

[Hope75]

Why don't you just stop this and tell him to his face to leave you alone and that you are not interested?

 

If you aren't giving him a clear message that you want to be left alone, how will he know?

 

You need to tell him. If it doesn't stop then, then you need to report it to school authorites.

[lipstick]

i think i am afraid of him

thats why i can't tell it to his face

[jna35]

You said that you've told him that you don't like him following you, but definitley tell him you have absolutely NO interest in him at all. If you are uncomfortable confronting him alone, take someone with you. If he continues to stalk you, report him!!

[lipstick]

You said that you've told him that you don't like him following you, but definitley tell him you have absolutely NO interest in him at all. If you are uncomfortable confronting him alone, take someone with you. If he continues to stalk you, report him!!

thanks , thats probably is the best advice..........i will do it with one of my best girl friends

[jna35]

You're very welcome!! Take care and let us know how it turns out!!