Hope75 Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 He is not more important than you are. You are just as important. You are responsible for taking care of yourself, he is responsible for taking care of himself. If you tell him, and he is a good bf who loves you, he will want to help you and be a good source of support. How old is he? If you tell him, you will tell him in the interest of getting help, and stopping the cutting and the drug abuse. You would not just tell him and then do nothing. My guess is because you came here and posted that you would like some help, but don't know how to go about getting it. This bf, if he truly cares about you , he will support you in this and want you to get clean and healthy. Don't you think he will support you?
Hope75 Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 I'm not telling you what to do. I am just letting you know that it might be easier for you to stop and get help if you didn't have to lie to everybody and keep so much of your life a secret. You've got alot going on and you need help, you need to be able to lean on some people who you know love you. Your mother, your bf, these people love you, right? Don't be afraid to go to them. You are human, and you have made some mistakes. You haven't done anything that can't be changed and corrected though. The biggest mistake of all is if you keep living like this and don't help others to help you. If they don't know what's going on, how can they help you?
perfectliljewel Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 ill try and tell my boyfriend hes spending the night 2night n we are going to mississippi tomorrow so we will have a nice long 9 hr conversation n his truck! yee haw! but ya i guess if i should trust ne1 it should b him... he knows a lot about me n amazingly still loves me so
Lonleyboy Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 i know im depressed but i dont know why. i have been cutting doing drugs, drinking and ODn on my pain pills. its weird though because i dont feel any emotion at all. i just know im not myself. i dont laugh at jokes i dont care if some1 gets hurt and when my boyfriend says i love you theres nothing. i can tell he is irratated from it and i want to feel things again. can you help me please why am i so emotionless and what can i do to stop it??? did you ever look into getting a diagnosis for Manic Depression, or something similar? My brother has manic depression, and exhibits similar symtom, though his moods change..
perfectliljewel Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 the therepist just said u have severe depression and theres nothing i can do
Hope75 Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 See that's where he's wrong. There is alot that can be done for depression. There is intensive therapy, and many different medications that can make a tremendous difference. I'm franly quite surprised that he dismissed you like that after making a diagnosis of severe depression. Let us know how talking with your bf goes, why are you going to Mississippi? Is it just the two of you? Maybe he can help you find a good reliable therapist who can really help you. Do you have health insurance?
perfectliljewel Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 See that's where he's wrong. There is alot that can be done for depression. There is intensive therapy, and many different medications that can make a tremendous difference. I'm franly quite surprised that he dismissed you like that after making a diagnosis of severe depression. Let us know how talking with your bf goes, why are you going to Mississippi? Is it just the two of you? Maybe he can help you find a good reliable therapist who can really help you. Do you have health insurance? i just got back from MS. we just went to hang out and ride horses. it was me him and my 2 cousins. i told him on the way there n we rode in silence for like 15mins he really didnt have much to say he just asked me y i did it, what with, where, and what he could do. he acted a little ackward but i guess ne1 would. it was kinda weird
Hope75 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Hey Girl, Good for you for sharing that with him. So he ended up being supportive, that's good. Do you feel better with someone on your side that knows what's going on? Did you mention the drugs to him? Did he say anything else?
perfectliljewel Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 Hey Girl, Good for you for sharing that with him. So he ended up being supportive, that's good. Do you feel better with someone on your side that knows what's going on? Did you mention the drugs to him? Did he say anything else? i dont know i guess its nice not keeping it a secret and not having to wear hot sweatshirts in 100 degree weather. ya i told him everying. he didnt say much he gave me a kiss n almost sufficated me when he wrapped him arm around me hes coming over 2night amazingly we rnt tired of eachother yet..... i almost killed my cousins but ya
Hope75 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Good for you, I am glad you were able to share it with someone who cares about you and wants what's best for you. Now that you have him on your side, what's your next step? Do you think together you can go to your parents, and see if they can arrange some GOOD counselling to help you?
perfectliljewel Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 i dnt think my parents really would care. im pretty sure my mom knows ive bn drinking..... its really obvious. and i would think she knows im doin drugs... i mean wouldnt you kinda wonder if you saw needle marks on ur daughters arms??? and i live in texas and its about 98 degrees and i wear a sweatshirt... kinda odd huh? i think they know sumthns up they just dont care. but hey not like i need them. ive bn able to feed myself n take sumwhat good care of me n my siblings with out there help since i was 7 so
Hope75 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Do you have any adults that you can trust? An aunt, grandparent, teacher that you liked that you could talk to that help you get into therapy? Why don't you think your mother will be supportive, and want you to get help? Are you still cutting? How can your bf help?
perfectliljewel Posted July 30, 2005 Author Posted July 30, 2005 Do you have any adults that you can trust? An aunt, grandparent, teacher that you liked that you could talk to that help you get into therapy? Why don't you think your mother will be supportive, and want you to get help? Are you still cutting? How can your bf help? my neighbor would prolly help but... it would b weird askn her for help n stuff. all my relatives r n MS. and my mom is my teacher. i know she wont actully, she nvr really has n she prolly already knows... dnt u think if she cared she would have said sumthn? yes im still cutting i cut last night and this morning actully. i dnt know how Josh can help. i have no clue i just dnt wanna loose him
Hope75 Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Maybe your mom is afraid to approach you about it, because if you are acting closed off and secretive about it, as I suspect you are, she is afraid that you will deny everything and refuse help. You say she is a teacher. Generally teachers care about children and considering that you are her own child I find it hard to believe if you approached her that she would not be willing to listen of get you some help. I think if you went to her wanting help you would be surprised. If you still feel as though you can't approach her, then do go to your neighbor. It might be weird, but if it can get you the help that you need, it is worth taking a risk. Honey, I can't imagine that you are too happy cutting and hurting yourself, and drowning out how you feel with drugs and alcohol. Do you want to feel better? Would you like to get help and learn to stop hurting yourself, and start to learn how to feel good about yourself? I think just having Josh there, knowing what's going on and willing to listen to you and lend his support in any way he can is a big help already. He could go with you to talk with your mom, or to your nieghbor if that's what you choose to do. How about it?
perfectliljewel Posted July 31, 2005 Author Posted July 31, 2005 shes not a teacher im homeskooled and she sits there n tells me to get my work done by friday or ill have ur stepdad beat the crap outta u but if thats ur idea of a teacher ok... n i think im just gunna stick with josh for now
DN Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Joshsbaby9188, Hope is only trying to help, as are we all. It would help us to help you if you would give a little more information in your responses so that we know more about what is happening and can give advice based on that rather than on guesswork. We all care about what is happening to you and want to assist the best way we can - help us to do that and it will easier for all of us.
DN Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 You seemed to get a little sarcastic with Hope - she was only trying to suggest you talk to your Mom and why she may listen. If that won't woek then we can think of something else. Have you talked to Josh since Friday?
perfectliljewel Posted July 31, 2005 Author Posted July 31, 2005 ya hes bn here all weekend bugging me to clean my room y?
DN Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Because part of supporting you and helping you is being there with you. Good idea to clean your room - you life is chaotic enough without living in it as well. If you can get a grip on your room, then maybe that will be a start on getting a grip on your life.
perfectliljewel Posted July 31, 2005 Author Posted July 31, 2005 no u dnt understand lol it would take me forever to clean my room. lol it looks like sum1 set off a time bomb
DN Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Oh, believe me I understand - been there, done that. I spent the last 2 weekends sorting out my den/office!!
DN Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 But do it anyway - you'll feel better and get a sense of satisfaction plus think of all the cool stuff you will find that you forgot you had.
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