Falling in love with a friend

[lonely]

I was a freshman in college last year and I was looking to make some new friends. I met this amazing girl and immediatley was attracted to her. She had a boyfriend at the time so I kept my feelings to myself. We weren't that close throughout the year but every once in a while we would hangout together. It was during these times that I knew she was the perfect girl for me and the one I wanted to be with. I made it my business to hangout with her more. We got very close over this time and our friendship finally took form but the problem was she still had a boyfriend. The school year soon came to an end and we went our separate ways for the summer. She treated me like a friend. There were never any signs that she liked me but hey why should there be she was with some one. I tried not to talk to her alot over the summer... You know out of site out of mind. This proved to be the best thing for me. It's not that I stopped liking her but the feelings sort of died down. I just thought of her as my friend at the start of sophmore year but things started to change my mind. She started to be a little more physical and guess what no more boyfriend. When we are walking sometimes she will just take my arm or if shes cold she will lean against me and ill put my arm around her and she'll smile. I can see her out of the corner of my eye just looking at me sometimes. The other day in class she just leaned her head on my shoulder for about five minutes. I make sure i do things like this too like give her a massage or just give her random hugs. A day wont go by without us talking. I got drunk a few nites ago as all of us college kids tend to do and I called her and told her how I felt. I told her that I loved her with all my heart and I would do anything for her. I told her that she was my girl. She replied with I love you too. She knew I was drunk so did she take me seriously? With all the physical stuff is that flirting or what? This is the complete opposite from last year when I knew for a fact she wasnt interested. I have no problem making a move on a girl but in this situation I have to know how she truly feels about me before I do it. I love her. Can somebody help?

[lynze82]

hey,

It sounds like this girl likes you as more than just a friend. I can relate to a lot that you just said. Something similar has happened to me. I would take things really slowly with her though why not take her out for a drink or just sit down one night and start the subject about the possibility of you to getting together. You have to be carful though, sometimes when you cross the line between friendship and relationship you cant go back, you have to make sure its what you want. Best of luck.

[lonely]

I'm replying to my own post. I told my friend how I feel and it was the greatest choice I ever made. Nothing is going to happen between us at this point in our lives but who knows what the future holds. It has made us ten time closer than we were in the past. We both knew we cared for eachother but actually coming out and saying it with words makes a total difference. My advice to others is that you have to judge your friends reaction. I knew that I could tell her and things wouldn't change. There aren't many people like her. She is one of a kind. If the friendship is very important to you and you don't want to ruin it, you have to know your friend very well before stating your feelings. Things couldn't be better for me right now. Weigh the situation and make the wise choice. Nobody knows the person better than you.

[sisterlynch]

If she still doesn't have a boyfriend the next time you see her look deeply into her eyes and if she too gazes deeply into your eyes without looking away, give her a kiss. Ask her if she is interested in being your girlfriend. ETC.