Not sure bout what to do about my boyfriend.

[gaby]

I met the guy who is now my boyfriend one year ago. We were good friends the first 4 months, and we started being GREAT FRIENDS the next two months. We used to hang out a lot and I really enjoyed his company. He was always calling me and visiting me in my house, or we went out. I never thought he could like me because he was always telling me about the girls that he liked so I was like "yeah, it's great because we get along really well and we don't like eachother as anything else than a friend". So I went with that thought and then he confessed he was in love with me, that he had never felt like that before and that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I was so shocked when he told me that because I didn't expect it, so I told him that I had to think about it. At that time I didn't have feelings for him other than friendship. I had him waiting becuase he kept insisting and I really wasn't sure about if it was going to work out or not because I loved the way he was with me but I was not sure about my feelings for him.

Anyway, bout 3 weeks after that, I said yes. I told him that I wanted to be his girlfriend and see what happened because I started to feel something for him, but that I was afraid to hurt him, or myself.

The thing is, I'm very happy with the relationship now, we've been together for 6 months now, and everything's very good (well almost everything, because we have our differences, and have broken up a few times for a day then get back together). What I mean is I really like him as a boyfriend now, and I'm learning a whole bunch of good things from him, and now I am more open with guys and less shy, but I'm worried about one thing.

He says he loves me deeply and that he wants to be with me and he is always showing me with every little thing he does that he loves me, and that I am his priority. All this sounds GREAT, but for some reason I don't absolutely like it. Maybe it is because I like him as a boyfriend and everything but I haven't got to the point where I can say that I'm deeply in love with him like he says he is with me, and maybe that is why I am scared. Because I don't wanna break up now, I like him a lot, but I know that some day we're gonna have to break up because I feel like I haven't found the man of my life yet, but I want to be with him right now...so ...I never had a bad intention, I just wanted to give it a chance and I don't regret because I've really liked our relationship but...IM SCARED TO HURT HIM !! and I don't know exactly what to do...plzzz help

[Meow18]

You should talk about this with him. Tell him that you love being with him and that it makes you so happy that he's in love with you. But you want to move slowly with your feelings. He should be understanding. I mean, you aren't telling him that you hate him, just that you need to move slowly.

 

Just because you aren't madly in love with him now doesn't mean you won't be later. It doesn't mean that you won't one day realize he is the one. That's normal, especially when you've been dating less than a year. Maybe he isn't the one, but maybe in time you will realize that he is. There's no need to decide what the future should be right now. What's meant to happen between you both will come.