patience Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 She and I talked yesterday, and it was amazing. She told me that she loved me. I told her that I love her too. Later I sent her an ecard (I know she read it) with some love poetry. I haven't heard back from her, and I'm feeling confused as to why not. Did I mess up? Was it too much to send the ecard? Should I give her space now? Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 It was yesterday. Relax. I'm sure everything is fine. Link to comment
patience Posted July 13, 2005 Author Share Posted July 13, 2005 why wouldn't she reply? is her silence a 'hint' or something? Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 I doubt it. You are reading too much into it. Maybe she didn't feel the need to reply or maybe you need to give her more than a day to reply. Either way, I think that if you're thinking it's a sign or something, you're overthinking things. If you're that worried, give the girl a call and say something like "I hope you liked the card." Link to comment
patience Posted July 13, 2005 Author Share Posted July 13, 2005 I probably am overthinking things! I needed to read that, thanks. Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 I'll called her and she told me that she needs space. I don't know what to think now. I'm sitting here shaking my head in disbelief. Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 I'll called her and she told me that she needs space. I don't know what to think now. I'm sitting here shaking my head in disbelief. Sorry....I really thought it was nothing. That is odd. Maybe she is overwhelmed by your feelings for her. Although I think there is something she isn't telling you because she said that she loved you. Did you get an explanation from her? Seems to me like she is being kinda wishy-washy and acting weird right after saying she loves you. That is strange. Given the fact that you had both said that you loved each other, I don't think you messed up by sending the card. I think this is her issue...I'm not sure what she's going through. Maybe she is having second thoughts. I don't know but you didn't do anything wrong...you just expressed your feelings. Give her the space that she wants. Maybe she feels suffocated (although from what you said it doesn't seem like you're smothering her...could that be it though?...you know better than I do). Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 I feel really confused. She might feel suffocated because of her own issues. I sense that there is something she is not telling me. How does someone change her mind so fast? Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 oh patience hun if i knew the answer to that i could help you and myself at the same time,unfortunately we have no way of knowing what the other person is really thinking but at the end of the day hun theres only so much we can do.And as for changing there minds so fast perhaps someone could fill us both in on that one cos i'm as stumped as you, as my gf has just told me its over. Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 tri, I'm sorry to hear that. Endings can be so very painful. Is your xgf talking to you at all? Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 yes you know that old thing can we still be friends don't you just hate that !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 I don't think it is a good idea to be friends with an ex...it will be way too painful for you if you still have feelings for her. How long were you together if you don't mind me asking? Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 not that long really but we went through alot to get where we are ,well where we were and i wouldnt mind but we went out tonight for a meal and i knew something was up but she didnt say anything and then i get on the computer and she beeps me on msn and tells me she carnt deal with our situation.I think that has p****d me off more than anything. Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 OMG! She broke up with you online? That's just terrible! Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 yep on line ,what a way to tell me,i suppose i should have seen it coming really ,shes been quite the last week but i know shes stressed with work but i did'nt expect that tonight especially on line. Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 oh patience hun if i knew the answer to that i could help you and myself at the same time,unfortunately we have no way of knowing what the other person is really thinking but at the end of the day hun theres only so much we can do.And as for changing there minds so fast perhaps someone could fill us both in on that one cos i'm as stumped as you, as my gf has just told me its over. Hi tri, I thought you were married with two kids? Am I confusing you with someone else? link removed Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 no your quite right i am married with 2 kids and am bisexual who until 5 hours ago also had a girlfriend and yes hubby knew all about her. Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 no your quite right i am married with 2 kids and am bisexual who until 5 hours ago also had a girlfriend and yes hubby knew all about her. Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 is that why the relationship ended...did she want exclusivity with you? Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 why so shocked ?????????? no because she was married aswell.she is having a hard time stress wise at work at the moment Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 why so shocked ??????????? 1) You had an extramarital affair 2) Your husband was cool with it These two things shock me. If I were in this situation, I would not be happy about my spouse having an affair, regardless of the other person's gender. I would want exclusivity with whoever I'm with. Link to comment
tri Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 thats fair enough ,everyone has there opinions,and i respect you for it. Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 it's called polyamoury Link to comment
patience Posted July 14, 2005 Author Share Posted July 14, 2005 how much 'space' is 'space'...is she really saying 'I'm not interested'? If she really wants me, how long will it be before she contacts me? Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 how much 'space' is 'space'...is she really saying 'I'm not interested'? If she really wants me, how long will it be before she contacts me? So, she didn't give you any more details? She just said "I need space" and that was it? I'm afraid that if she didn't elaborate then it doesn't look positive for getting back together. Link to comment
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