Is it ok to ask if he's Cheating

[Johanna81]

I was just wondering if it's ok to ask who your seeing pointblank if they are cheating has anyone done this? and if so what came of it.

[melrich]

I think it depends on whether or not you have good reason to suspect that he is in fact cheating.

[DN]

If you do, you had better have very good grounds for your suspicions or you could easily wreck the relationship.

 

If you do not have good grounds all he has to do is deny it.

 

If you know he is, why bother asking?

[Mun]

Would you believe them if they said no?...

 

Would they admit to it if they are?

 

Maybe these are things to consider before you ask that question.

[Jetta]

Yes I have and all accusations were denied. I believed him initially, and thought maybe it was all in my head. Then the coworkers started pointing things out to me, so I couldn't deny it anymore.

[lady00]

Why do you think he is cheating? Has he done anything very suspiscious?

[RandomAdvisor]

If you have to ask, he probably is. I've never experienced it personally, but so many people on this board say to trust your instincts.

 

That being said, why are you suspicious?

[DN]

If you have to ask, he probably is. I've never experienced it personally, but so many people on this board say to trust your instincts.

 

That being said, why are you suspicious?

 

But there are also people on this board who say they have been accused of cheating when they have not. No doubt the partner who made the accusation in those cases also trusted their instincts.

[stressed1]

Well,

 

agree again with previous posters...

 

1. no point in asking, dont expect the truth from cheaters

 

2. if u have to ask u will be right. so no point

 

3. what are ur suspicions? if ur wrong asking is almost as bad as accusing. very destyructive....