Ready to give up friend...

[Moore]

My friend and I of 9 years arent talking to one another once again. We recently went on holidays (her, her boyfriend & I) for me to meet up with a new mate I had made on the interent. All was good until the end of the trip.

 

We tried to get an appartment with 2 rooms however we only could get a 1 bedroom appartment. They took the room while my mate and I slept on the sofa. My mate and I are serious about each other and wanted to be a little intermit with one another. My mate lives 2 days away by car so its not like I can seem them whenever I want quickly.

 

We tried to let them know that we wanted them out of the room. We thought they got the hint as they took the tv out of the lounge room and put it in with them in the bedroom. We put on a cd and kept our own noise to nearly non existent. We were very discrete about being together and never wanted to make a noise for them to hear. Next minute my friend comes out and tells us to cut it out, we are making her sick and to get to sleep. From that moment on I was cranky at her. We got out of bed and left.

 

I haven't spoken to her for a week now. I guess I will talk to her sometime. I feel that I am right in not talking to her. She has not made an effort to talk to me yet. Even if she did I know I would ignore her. Yes I am very stubborn. VERY. I just dont like to be hurt conitually by the same person if I can help it. My mate tells me I should go and talk to her but I don't feel like I am really in the wrong. What do you all think. Have I got a right to feel upset about it all.

 

Right now I feel like I don't care if we stay friends or not. If just seems to happen to often lately. I just dont know anymore.

 

Thanks

[arwen]

I haven't spoken to her for a week now. I guess I will talk to her sometime. I feel that I am right in not talking to her. She has not made an effort to talk to me yet. Even if she did I know I would ignore her. Yes I am very stubborn. VERY. I just dont like to be hurt conitually by the same person if I can help it. My mate tells me I should go and talk to her but I don't feel like I am really in the wrong. What do you all think. Have I got a right to feel upset about it all.

 

Right now I feel like I don't care if we stay friends or not. If just seems to happen to often lately. I just dont know anymore.

 

Thanks

 

I think I'd feel the same way. The way you describe the situation, she has been really inconsiderate for your feelings and the relationship you have with your man.

 

You are not in the wrong, but I think if it's eating you on the inside, you are still the bigger person for wanting to make things right. Right now you are too proud to do so, of course. Don't let this situation ruin a complete friendship, and make you turn bitter.

 

How are your other friendships? You were saying that this happened too often lately?

 

Take care,

 

Ilse.