candigurl55 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 MY boyfriends mom just found a condom in the bathroom that he shares with his twin brother. We knows it was ours but both of them are blaming it on each other. How can i convince our parents that it wasnt us? His twin also has a girlfriend and they have been together for awhile. He is also known to be kind of fast. Do you think their mom will think it was him? Link to comment
Meow18 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 I don't think it's fair to get the brother in trouble for it, especially if you know it was yours. If it was yours, take the blame for it. If you think you are responsible enough for sex, then you have to deal with the consequences of having sex and what the consequences are of the parents finding out. Don't let someone else take the blame. It's just not fair. Link to comment
Caldus Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 MY boyfriends mom just found a condom in the bathroom that he shares with his twin brother. We knows it was ours but both of them are blaming it on each other. How can i convince our parents that it wasnt us? His twin also has a girlfriend and they have been together for awhile. He is also known to be kind of fast. Do you think their mom will think it was him? OK so your topic title says 'his mom found our condom" so I am now going to make the assumption that in reality it was not the twin's condom. Hey, you risked the consequences of your parents finding out and that's what happened. Also, I find it disturbing that you want to try and place blame on his twin if it was for your BF's and you. Doing this kind of stuff your whole life is going to do nothing but create trouble later on. And to think you aren't even legal yet anyway... Link to comment
skyteph Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 And to think you aren't even legal yet anyway... What is the legal age for sex in America? In Australia it's 16! Link to comment
Meow18 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 And to think you aren't even legal yet anyway... What is the legal age for sex in America? In Australia it's 16! 18 Link to comment
Swimbaby Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Nah, its 16 to give concent. At least in NH... Anyway, I agree with Maggie... You should take the responsibility for your actions. Have a talk with your boyfriend and his mom. Maybe she'll be relieved that you two were at least using protection. And if she's nice.. she won't tell your mom. (Same thing happened to me, and luckily she didn't tell my mom, I would've flipped if that happened) Although there are some benefits of telling your parents that you are sexually active. Once my older sister confessed to them that she was, my parents decided to put her on birth control and they're totally cool with her actions. (I'm a little grossed out by the thought, but then again, shes my sister.) Link to comment
bellamcb Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Caldus wrote: And to think you aren't even legal yet anyway... What is the legal age for sex in America? In Australia it's 16! 18 _________________ It's not 18 in America. It's 18 if you're going to sleep with someone else that is 18 or older. 16 year olds have legal sex all the time (not that I'm condoning it). In any case, putting the blame on someone else and asking for advice on how to secure that story is not something I'm guessing most people will support. Link to comment
Caldus Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Caldus wrote: And to think you aren't even legal yet anyway... What is the legal age for sex in America? In Australia it's 16! 18 _________________ It's not 18 in America. It's 18 if you're going to sleep with someone else that is 18 or older. 16 year olds have legal sex all the time (not that I'm condoning it). In any case, putting the blame on someone else and asking for advice on how to secure that story is not something I'm guessing most people will support. Good call I didn't think of that. I looked up some information on laws concerning this stuff in North Carolina (her state) and yes if her BF is not 18 then it's considered legal as far as I know. I think the bigger problem here though is her desire to lie to their parents. Link to comment
armchairshrink Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 If you think you are responsible enough for sex, then you have to deal with the consequences of having sex ... Well said! And his mom finding out is one of the lighter consequences. It could be much worse ... Besides, trying to pin the blame on his brother is not only wrong, but it illustrates that you really are NOT responsible enough for sex because you won't take responsibility for your own actions. Contrary to popular belief, being "ready" or "old enough" for sex has only a little to do with being ready for the physical act. That's just the first step. It has a lot more to do with being at a point in your life where you can handle all the physical, emotional, and social consequences of the sex act. Do the right thing and fess up to his mother. Do it in a mature, controlled manner (and keep your cool throughout the inevitable and justifiable tirade), and she may even respect you for telling the truth. And that might be the thing that keeps you from being grounded for the rest of your life. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Caldus wrote: And to think you aren't even legal yet anyway... What is the legal age for sex in America? In Australia it's 16! 18 _________________ It's not 18 in America. It's 18 if you're going to sleep with someone else that is 18 or older. 16 year olds have legal sex all the time (not that I'm condoning it). In any case, putting the blame on someone else and asking for advice on how to secure that story is not something I'm guessing most people will support. Good call I didn't think of that. I looked up some information on laws concerning this stuff in North Carolina (her state) and yes if her BF is not 18 then it's considered legal as far as I know. I think the bigger problem here though is her desire to lie to their parents. Yeah, sorry.. I just realized that. It wouldn't be illegal if 13 year olds were having sex, but if one is over 18 and the other is under 18, then that's a legal issue. Sorry, I should have gone into more detail on that. Link to comment
btbt Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 If you are having sex, then you should be able to deal with the consequences, such as other people finding out, pregnacy, STDs etc. Blaming someone else for it is immature behavior. Own up to the responsibility. Be open about having sex with your parents -- who knows, maybe they will help educate you so that you can have safe sex instead of sneaking around and getting yourself in worse trouble. Link to comment
inspiration Posted July 12, 2005 Share Posted July 12, 2005 it's a horrible feeling. esp. when they find an empty box and a used one... yea... that was a horrible horrible dayyyyy. -.ins Link to comment
xprincessbugx Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 just fess up, like everyone else has said, you are mature enough to have sex you are mature enough to deal with consequences. It's not fair for the other brother to be blamed.... Just be mature! Link to comment
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