Am i missed?

[reflectionlessmirror]

Alot of people here knwo my story. My ex and i were done on May 19th. We were talking again until about 2 weeks ago till i felt he was using me (calling at 2 am asking me to come over? ) So i initiated NC at once. He finally stopped calling which is good cause i know i cant have him in my life, he is an alcoholic. Well today i saw his truck parked at rite aide on my way to work. (He works 3rd shift and sometimes feels like he will fall asleep driving home so he sleeps in his truck in that parking lot sometimes...strange iknow). Well i was SOOO tempted to pull in there and honk really loud and then drive off. Thats ignorant so i didnt.I am still very angry with him from bad things in the relationship, but since seeing his truck i am wondering (and this is self centered) if he is missing me. I really hope that he is. I shouldnt even care. Guys especailly, do you jsut move right on after realtionships and screw other girls and drink with your frineds and not miss your ex at all?

[lady00]

He probably does have feelings of missing you every now and then, thats only natural but it doesn't really mean much and like you said, it shouldn't matter to you. After all, he's your ex, and you don't seem to want him back. Try not to worry about what he's thinking, especially if it doesn't help you heal and move on...and I don't think thinking about whether he misses you does help with that.

[Hope75]

Reflectionless,

 

You are right. It shouldn't be important to you if he misses you or not. He's not good for you and you are smart to move on and keep up with NC. Wondering if he misses you is only going to hold up your recovery and ability to get over him.

 

Try not to think about him, and instead focus on you and getting on with your life.

[reflectionlessmirror]

Yes Lady and Hope, it is NOT helping me at all. The only time i really wonder though is when i SEE him driving (we live in the same small town) or whenever i find something lef tover from him. I put everything in a box(pictueres, letters, gifts, etc) but two days ago i found a "straggeler" picture of him from the day he got his new truck. That made me sad but it went in the "forbidden box" and will hopefully help me forget about him.

[Hope75]

Reflectionless,

 

That is what you have to do. Pack away his things and your tangible memories, and try to get over him.

 

You can do this, and you deserve someone who loves you back and wants you back.

 

Hang in there, it will be tough, but it does get easier. Try to keep yourself busy.

[darkblue]

I agree with hope75 on this one.

 

In order to get over him; you have to completely irradicate all his possesions from your life.

 

This will hurt, but on the plus side; you only have to do it once

 

Stay Strong.

[reflectionlessmirror]

Well SH*T, here is an update. He jsut came into my work. Ugh. I told him that i dont want him in my life as long as he is drinking. He acted like i was joking. Not cool. Well so muich for my wonder NC-he broke it AGAIN! Not like he has changed. This stinks.

[Hope75]

So you cannot do anything about him coming to your work, you just have to resume NC. You told him what you expect, and he will have to accept that. Don't let him deviate you from your path.