I'll NEVER get over him

[pixie102]

I posted on here a while back about visiting my ex-boyfriend:

 

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Well, a lot has happened since then. I did visit him and it was great. I'm sooo glad I went. Well, the girl is pregnant, but it might not be his. He knows this too because she was sleeping with another guy when they were broken up for 2 months. But now he is going to join the army and marry this girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm going crazy here.

 

He's been calling me an awful lot (we talked 3 times in one day--beside the point though) because he's excited about joining the army. He needs support right now and I'm giving him that. I've put my feelings on the back burner. But he's like you're coming to the wedding, you'd even be a best "man." I wanted to scream, but I said I'll be wherever you want me to be. I'm a masochist now apparently.

 

My feelings have become so strong again for him that I don't know what to do. And applying the no-contact thing to this situation is completely irrelevant at this point.

 

Hearing him talk about that ho-bag is just too much. It keeps making me wonder, why not me? Why didn't he choose me? I mean I'm good enough to be one of his best friends, but...? He was in love with me when we were together...how could that fade away? I don't know how to not be in love with him...I guess because I always have been. And telling him how I feel is out of the question at this point. I'm at my wits end. Does anyone have any advice? (besides never speak to him again)

[quick]

Hey you say telling his is out of the question. Darl i think you need to tell him, it seems that he has dropped hints about not being happy with her, so tell him how you feel its the only way you will know if he does feel the same way, Dont spend the rest of your life regretful for not telling him, Just do it i mean really you have nothing to lose and everything to gain ! Goodluck

[fantasia2004]

Hey you say telling his is out of the question. Darl i think you need to tell him, it seems that he has dropped hints about not being happy with her, so tell him how you feel its the only way you will know if he does feel the same way, Dont spend the rest of your life regretful for not telling him, Just do it i mean really you have nothing to lose and everything to gain ! Goodluck

 

I don't know quick maybe she should slow her boat and think carefully before taking a dive.

 

Her emotions are out of sync and it is her job (with a little help from us to0) to put them back together.

[pixie102]

I know the situation is very complicated and delicate. And I do need lots of advice! It's just I'm not the only friend of his who doesn't like this girl he is with. All of his friends told me (when I visited) that they hate her and that she's crazy. They've even tried confronting him about it. But all of that is beside the point. I just don't know what I should do.

 

Not tell him how I feel? I mean, I know it would awfully selfish for me to do that and to put him in an awkward position like that. But he's going to join the army and get married! And I know he chose her and not me. But how do I get over being in love with him?

 

I want to be there for him--and I am--in a way that's not so...painful for me. I just feel like I have to do something though. Or not. I know how he feels about me too...he loves me...as you love your best friend. But...I guess I'm still hoping he has more feelings than that for me.

 

I don't know. As you can probably tell I'm just confused. Thanks for reading this. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!!