Are they all the same..

[Baby_Blue_Eyes]

Im in a loving relationship an all but out of my 11 years dating guys this one question is in the back of my head.. Will all guys say sweet, romantic, love things just to get laid.. i mean really.. the guy im with now has nver brought up sex an dont try to act like a jerk by putting his hands all over me.. he is very loving but not in that sleeze bag way..lol so do all guys say that crap to try to get in your pants..

[fate or freewill]

I think it depends on the motives, maturity and morals of the guy. When I was younger I'm sure I did say a few things to help the process along.

 

As I get older or wiser or something I find that I have to have an emotional connection with a woman before I can be sexual with her.

 

These days, I turn down more partners than I accept, but that's just me.

[DN]

It is a little early to tell with this guy since, unless I misread your previous postings, you have only been going out with him since last weekend.

 

Have you really been dating guys since you were 5 years old

[chai714]

Will all guys say sweet, romantic, love things just to get laid..

 

Some will, but some really mean them. Never can you classify all based on one, or even a few. If you don't trust him, wait.

[lillady898]

If you're 16 right now and have been dating for 11 years... You were five when you started dating? Wow, and I thought 13 was early.

 

No two guys are exactly alike. And not all of them are only into sex.

[reflectionlessmirror]

16 and dating for 11 years??? Strange.

[ShySoul]

Not all guys are sleezes who want sex from a girl. There are actually some who respect women and care more about the love and relationship.

 

What's your definition of dating? Cause dating since 5 is starting very early. Is a play date dating? Cause if so my dating total is going to shoot up from nothing to quite a bit.

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

baby when two five year olds of the opposite gender say "show me yours and I'll show you mine" it doesn't count as dating.

[smallworld]

so do all guys say that crap to try to get in your pants..

 

Some guys say that "crap" because they want to get into your heart. Imagine that!

 

Here's the acid test: He respects your wishes and he doesn't push you into doing anything you're not comfortable with. He goes at your pace. And he loves you just as you are and doesn't try to change a thing about you. If he does those things, then you've probably found yourself a genuine prince. Congratulations! 8)

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

All us males are exactly the same. We just think about sex. We don't really feel love, empathy, compassion, the need for companionship or anything else outside the confusion that comes from the demands of our pulsating erections. And we all think exactly the same thing much like dim witted zombies in Night of the living dead, only instead of brains, we want T and A and nothing else.

[Baby_Blue_Eyes]

Oh one thing i wanna clear up is that i didnt mean i have been dating for 11 years i ment SINCE.. i was 11 is when i had a real boyfriend..

[DN]

All us males are exactly the same. We just think about sex. We don't really feel love, empathy, compassion, the need for companionship or anything else outside the confusion that comes from the demands of our pulsating erections. And we all think exactly the same thing much like dim witted zombies in Night of the living dead, only instead of brains, we want T and A and nothing else.

 

Either you are joking, or there is something very wrong with the drinking water on St. Helena.

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

Dn I was dripping with sarcasm when I made that statement. I find those kind of rediculous questions beneath a proper response.

[DN]

Oh, OK. Now I see. Good one.

 

For some reason that reminds me of that old saying: there is no such thing as a stupid question, but there are such things as stupid answers. Perhaps I got it wrong or maybe it doesn't apply to not very experienced fifteen year old girls asking for advice.

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

Dn she is fifteen, not five. Sometimes the best answers are answered in in such a sardonic biting way that it makes the questioner realize how rediculous the question is. I am sure you can see that.

[DN]

Dn she is fifteen, not five. Sometimes the best answers are answered in in such a sardonic biting way that it makes the questioner realize how rediculous the question is. I am sure you can see that.

 

If your premise were true, in order for it to work it would have to be done in such a way that the questioner understood the response to their 'ridiculous' question was biting and sardonic, and that would require someone able to pull it off.

 

But, in the unlikely event that was accomplished, the danger is that the questioner feels so humiliated that they never ask for advice again, for fear of another response dripping with sarcasm.

 

And people who witnessed that humiliation may feel similarly intimidated and also decide not to ask their questions.

 

That is one of the reasons for the saying about stupid answers.

[ShySoul]

Dn she is fifteen, not five. Sometimes the best answers are answered in in such a sardonic biting way that it makes the questioner realize how rediculous the question is. I am sure you can see that.

 

Napolean, your sarcasm may be humorous to some, but to others it could be considered extremely offensive. I believe you've mentioned in the past that you have trouble relating to people. I think thats a big part of why. When you say these things its hard to now if you are being serious or joking.

 

Furthermore, it is extremly hard to tell sarcasm over a computer screen. You didn't even use a smiley face to let us know it was a joke, like this . Someone reading your post could take it the wrong way. And being 15 maybe she would be more inclined to take you seriously, thinking that you are older so you would know better. Teenagers can be impressionable.

 

Plus, the while the question may seem silly to you, it clearly isn't to the person posting it. When people ask for advice, its only right that they be treated with respect, not looked at as silly for asking such a question. Be more careful with your advice and use of sarcasm.

 

As for the question, there are mature guys who will treat you with respect and class.

[easyguy]

Sometimes I feel as though I am the only mature guy around.

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

We don't really feel love, empathy, compassion, the need for companionship or anything else outside the confusion that comes from the demands of our pulsating erections. -------------------

 

 

I think that in itself is pretty obviously sarcasm Dn. I think at sixteen she can see the absurdity for what it is.

 

If your premise were true, in order for it to work it would have to be done in such a way that the questioner understood the response to their 'ridiculous' question was biting and sardonic, and that would require someone able to pull it off.

 

Tsk, tsk, personal attacks ain't gonna bother me.

 

 

As for Shy, you do have a tendency to take what I have said in previous posts out of context in some interesting attempt to dissect me.

When I say I have trouble relating to people I was talking about certain peoples values, attitudes and beliefs. Not interacting with them.

[DN]

Why would you take that as a personal attack? I was responding in general terms to your premise. Sorry if I hit a nerve there.

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

Dn you didn't hit a nerve. I am too scattered for that right now. However perhaps I misunderstood. I have a great deal on my mind today. I'm balancing fifty things at once. My apologizes if I was defensive.

[DN]

Dn you didn't hit a nerve. I am too scattered for that right now. However perhaps I misunderstood. I have a great deal on my mind today. I'm balancing fifty things at once. My apologizes if I was defensive.

 

Anything I can help with?

[Napoleon Bonaparte]

I have to take the Lsat and study for it which I keep putting off. Want over 168. So I can get into good law school like Fordham or Columbia (at least brooklyn).

Get back to my shrink so I can get special testing accomidations for octobers Lsat.

Get certified as a public teacher before the school year starts and worry that I'll get stuck teaching malcontents in an inner city in New York.

Get out of a Job that I hate, which my employer hates me who I can't stand, which I like the people I work with but they are all leaving.

Get a hold of a literary agent who is looking at my first prologue of my novel and see if she can find somebody to sell it. On top of that I am worried she will hate it when she reads it.

On top of that I have devouted myself to 100 crunches a day, forty push ups, and I have no AC in this 100 year old apartment (literarily) and it's too hot to sleep in. On top of that I need to get out more, get a social life again. And I am still furious four months later at a girl who rubbed her sex life and bf into my face after being there for her for two years straight. On top of that my ex who happens to be the closest person in the world to me who I love very much is unhappy with things between us. On top of that I am cycling bipolar and having panic arracks cuz I missed my meds the other day. And the lithium is making my skin itch in the hot weather. On top of that lack of sex, appetite, and money plus an irritation at the injustice in the world (that doesn't have to do with me) is making me full of contempt.

[DN]

Maybe you should start a separate thread so we don't hijack this one. There is a lot of stuff there, and it may well be that you can get some good advice on some, if not all, of it.

[Baby_Blue_Eyes]

Yeah that wasn't very funny.. an for his info i am 16.. i act more mature then he does.. i don't try to act stupid when giving someone advise or putting in an opinion.. Now I do understand what they mean by.. "Stupidity lies in the hands of all who think the world is some big joke"