ronniegirl Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 I hope there is someone that can pass on some words of wisdom to ease the ever increasing levels of frustration I feel in my marriage. I have been married for 10 years. My husband was diagnosed with depression for most of our marriage and has consistantly been unemotional and distant. Recently, he has been re-diagnosed with a sleeping disorder and not depression- He has been removed from his meds and has hoped for the "wet blanket" feeling to be lifted from his emotions. This did occur for a bit and he is slowly trying to rediscover his feelings. I have had the fortune to support all of this transition over the years with patience and understanding, however of recent I have reduced my tolerance and have become quite impatient to see the light at the end of this rainbow. My husband does not communicate with me- I have gone for days with less then 10 words between us- I feel like a news reporter when a comment is made because he does not elaborate on any topic spoken- so I have to "dig" for information just to have a conversation. Our intimacy is to say the least minimal. Our child is wonderful thank goodness but does suffer for the lack of his father's involvement in his life on a daily basis which drives me crazy. Because of his sleep disorder- he needs to take naps on the weekend- for a couple of hours in the afternoon- which often cuts into family activities. My husband's family is generally distant and can be rude on occasion- so if divorce is emminent, I would be able to remove myself from his family quite easily. We have been seeing a marriage therapist for 6 months now and it seems she consistantly turns to my husband to suggest some communication ideas- she recognizes the fact that I have had enough, his family is indeed rude to me and that my husband needs to step up with some action- words have lost their credibility. The therapy has helped a little but not enough - 6 months later -I don't feel a huge difference. I have asked my husband to see a "life coach" to try to give him some perspective on how his lack of communication and lack of emotional involvement is killing our marriage. This for me is the last straw. If the "life coach" can't help him- I do not want to suffer anymore. It is aweful to say but did I pick the wrong guy to marry? He is a gentle soul and can be quite generous and kind- I cannot however, live without better communication! Is there anyone that can relate to my situation? Does anyone have any suggestions? Am I foolish to continue this depleating marriage? When do you call it a day and realise it will never change??[/img] Link to comment
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