Is It Normal To Care About Mom so Much?

[loveydovey]

My mother is a beautiful beautiful lady. She is a single parent who raised my sister and I on her own starting when I was about 10 years old, after my parent's divorce. I love her sooo much and the things that she does and has accomplished astound me!

 

The problem however, is that I worry so much about when my sister and I move out of the house. I am 23 and am going to be on my own in the next 6-9 months. My sister is college aged and will be graduating in about 2 or 3 years. Right now, if we were to leave, she would be in the house by herself. And omigoodness, i do NOT want my Mommy (yeah I know but i luvs her to pieces) to be alone or feeling lonely.

 

Sometimes I think of that movie The Parent Trap and try to figure out how I can get her to have a boyfriend or some companion in her life. I don't know what to do but worry and sometimes I feel like I can't ever see myself moving out and leaving her there.

 

Anyone else ever feel like this?

[trendyfcuk]

That's amazing! it's so awesome you have that kind of love for your mom.

 

I love my mom to bits and pieces as well. I'm only 17... but she's a great woman.

 

Maybe you and your mom need to go out and have a mom/daughter day ! Go out for dinner, to get drinks, something. Maybe introduce her to someone there, or coax her to talk to someone.

 

Good luck =)

[ComputerGuy]

Its not abnormal or anything. She's been there your whole life and it's only natural you worry about ehr being lonely by herself. My advice is that while it is good to get out on your own, there is nothing stopping you from going to see her often or inviting her out to go shopping or whatever.

[kutekat100]

I know exactly how you feel. I love my mum so much and she has always been there for me and I am just about to move out of home to live with friends in a wonderful house that she found for me to rent eve though i know she doesn't want me to go. her unconditional love is amazing.

 

I feel so guilty for going. Guilty for all of the times I shouted or got agitated or didn't spend enought time with her. And I'm 25!

 

I think feelings like this are natural even though you probably think you are the only one feeling them. Visit your mum lots, invite her round, include her in lots of things you do. My mum is by herself too. I'm thinking that maybe when I move, and you as well, our mum's will start to gain more independence and maybe that is when they will find a great man! I hope so!

[I_love_rain_hugs_and_you]

I have the same worries as you. But life goes on and you have to move out when you get a job, and thats just how it is. It's like leaving a child at school instead of being with him or her all day...it hurts, but you just have to do it. As hard it is, you will have to leave your mom, and not be too emotional about it. She will survive, and even do very well, regardless of whether you are there or not. Maybe she could buy a dog or another pet to keep her company. Does anyone here know any really good dog breeds that would be perfect for this mother?