Are these obvious signs she's interested?

[boiler55126]

I've been to this bar probably 3 times in the last 2 weeks and a bartender seems to be interested. Not totally sure so I'll explain. The last 2 times I've been there we've talked most of the time she isn't serving anyone. She's pretty much hung out where ever I've been sitting. She's been asking personal questions like "do you have any kids?" "have you ever been married?" "how old are you?" "what do you do for work?" as well as telling me an awful lot about herself. If she's not interested then why would she care at all if I have any kids and so on. Is she just trying to be a friendly bartender? She makes eye contact with me an awful lot, smiles at me all the time. The last time I was there I was with a friend of mine. We stopped there on our way to a different place and she was working. When we got up to leave she was at the very far end of the bar from us. She seen we were leaving and almost ran to the end where we were to say bye to us. I told her I might stop back up later and she said she'd be there til 1am, almost like an invitation. So after we left I told my friend that I believe she's interested in me and he said that when I got up to use the restroom that she was checking me out pretty hard and that it was very obvious. Well we went and partied at this other place and I decided to go back up there and talk to her some more. Seems like we have a lot in common. I'm just not totally sure she is interested, she does seem overly friendly. I'm not sure if she's waiting for me to make a move or not. Maybe I'm just being stupid and jaded about a break-up about a month ago. I just don't know how to break the ice, I'm kinda shy that way. Any ideas?

[bellamcb]

Ask her what she does when she's not working and see if you can steer the conversation to find something you both like doing, then casually suggest getting together to do it. Hopefully you'll find an answer to your question.

 

It definitely sounds like she likes you........

[lifeiscash]

It does sound like she likes you, but with women you can never be to sure. There are a couple of answers, the first one is maybe she wants a big tip.. fact it, she's a bartender, it's her job to flirt. Second, it sounds like she might really like you, if this is the case I would just ask her what day she doesnt have work and ask her out to grab some coffee or whatever it is you would like to do. That will give you your answer right there if she is interested or not. But often times, girls seem to be "pver-friendly" and it comes off in a way that is flirtatious but its rather not, its just part of their personality. Either way, go for it, its only a girl anyways. Good Luck

[DN]

The only way that you will find out for sure if she is interested is to ask her out.

 

One question though - do you leave generous tips? Because if you do, she may just be a bartender keeping a generous customer happy.

 

But I would still ask her out.

[kskm]

My best friend is a bartender and the first rule is flirt flirt flirt. I have visited her on many occasions and talk to her about it all of the time, and she has customers that tip her very well and she "pretends" to be interested in their entire life.

 

I am not saying that she doesn't like you or isn't interested, but I am saying that the only way to find out is to ask her out.

[kanderson]

I agree with KSKM thats their job making money get to know her first. Also be careful - bar scene?? If you know what I mean.