They say that woman listens better

[Spirits Away]

They say that woman listen better than men. That's also my personal experience as well as facts from statistics.

 

how do woman listen that are distinct from men's way of listening?

If you as a female have a task to help people listen better, how would u teach them?

 

This post is not intended for arguments, but purely for personal growth

[fantasia2004]

I guess in my opinion only, that we are programmed by society to be truly more sensitive and caring and understanding.

 

In other words, passive?

[DN]

I guess in my opinion only, that we are programmed by society to be truly more sensitive and caring and understanding.

 

In other words, passive?

 

Frankly I think that is a sexist stereotype. For every Mother Theresa there is an Albert Schweitzer.

[Gunther]

I couldn't help but laugh at that idea. No offence, but men have the ability to listen just as well as women, its just what they do after listening that separates men and women. Men after recieving the news that something bad has happened will do one of two things 1. they will want to be the tar out of someone{aka the person who did something bad to the other person} or 2. they will say "that sucks" and continue doing whatever they were doing before. Women on the other hand tend to try to comfort more. This may sound sexist, but I am willing to bet 90% of the men would have the exact same responce to a friend telling them about a bit of bad luck.

[fantasia2004]

please ! Men enevr listen at all. That is why men are from mars and women are from venus.

[fantasia2004]

I guess in my opinion only, that we are programmed by society to be truly more sensitive and caring and understanding.

 

In other words, passive?

 

Frankly I think that is a sexist stereotype. For every Mother Theresa there is an Albert Schweitzer.

 

It is not sexist at all .

[Reilly2856]

I think the main thing that separtes women from men in this area is that woman are able to comfort one another. If a friend comes over with some bad news, we immediately try to make him/her feel better my sharing some bad experience we've had. This in part helps the other person realize (a). what they're going through isn't as bad. or (b). someone's been there before me and gotten through it. Now, how can you compete with that guys?

[whatdoyado]

I think guys and girls can both be good listeners...if they choose to. I'll admit that I'll be listening to someone and well I'll start thinking about something and completely forget that I'm supposed to be listening. When I don't have something else completely on my mind then I can listen. If someone needs me to listen I forget whatever and repeat everything they've said back in my head so I remember what's going on. So why do you need tips on how to listen, just listen. Sometime's people just want you to be attentive and listening to what their saying just cause they need to blow off steam, others may be seeking your advice. If their ranting just listen, if they keep asking you what do you think wait till they finally pause and then put your good word in.

[DN]

I guess in my opinion only, that we are programmed by society to be truly more sensitive and caring and understanding.

 

In other words, passive?

 

Frankly I think that is a sexist stereotype. For every Mother Theresa there is an Albert Schweitzer.

 

It is not sexist at all .

 

IMO if you say something positive about one gender and at least imply that the other gender is lacking in that regard - that essentially defines a sexist attitude. Could you say something like that about one race compared to another and not be accused of racism?

[fantasia2004]

this is not about race!

 

This is how society perceives it.

 

I do not accept it the mentality that is. Femininists would disagree with my statement and call it ludacris.

 

I am explaining that men really do not listen to you even if they tried.

 

 

Men do not want to talk about your problems nor do they want to communicate about their feelings. I am sorry to tell you this. Please maybe changes have been in this world which would show tha I am very much far behind.

 

Most men find going to a therapist to talk kills their spirt and manhood.

[fantasia2004]

no arguments just personal growth.

I agree!

[DN]

I didn't say it was about race - I was attempting to show that to make derogatory statements, even by implication, about an entire gender is no different than making derogatory statements about an entire race.

 

Apart from being sexist, it is demonstrably not true. Just have a browse through these forums and count how many men listen to other people's problems and try to help. Count how many men are asking for help and advice and are grateful to receive it. Go to the poetry forum on here to see how many posts are made by men about love, emotions and feelings; or check the shelves devoted to poetry at your local bookstore or library and read the works of Donne, Browning, Keats and Shelley; or read Shakespeare's sonnets. Look at the works of Freud and Jung, the fathers of the study of human emotions and feelings; see how many therapists are men and how many of their clients are men. Look at the work of Chad Varah of the Samaritans, whose whole purpose is to listen to those in trouble; study the writings of Thomas More, or of Voltaire. If you think men don't listen or don't care about your problems, or cannot communicate about theirs, I suggest that perhaps it is you who are not paying attention.

 

Remember that it is a man who founded this site - which is about listening and helping.

[fantasia2004]

Those men yes DN, however not all men choose to speak forward about their issues or are afraid to. Only a few.

[fantasia2004]

I majored in psychology so I know but only now very gradually a few men I repeat a few are starting to listen more and reveal more.

 

Only a few!

[DN]

The fact that you studied psychology doesn't make you an expert in it. As you must know, as in any discipline, it is expected that you back assertions such as yours with evidence. Other than your perceptions, you have provided none.

 

But, I see that you are not willing to listen to a contrary point of view, so I will assume that you cannot be persuaded.

[fantasia2004]

The fact that you studied psychology doesn't make you an expert in it. As you must know, as in any discipline, it is expected that you back assertions such as yours with evidence. Other than your perceptions, you have provided none.

 

But, I see that you are not willing to listen to a contrary point of view, so I will assume that you cannot be persuaded.

 

I did not say I was a expert in the field and yes you must back it up with solid evidence. But in certain cases studied in sociology and or in psychology there is truth to that matter.

 

I am open to hearing both sides I am not that ignorant as you might and I say that nicely not sarcastically might believe.

 

I have read dozens articles and seen in cases where men do not like to talk. I will ask you this to make it clearer for myself and others.

What is the perception or mentality that society have of how women think and do things scientifically?

 

Are men in society allowed to show their feelings? Or are women meant to be the nurturers only? Just out of curiosity. Does that make sense if not I will elaborate more.

[DN]

Well, you already dismissed the examples that I gave you, which included many hundred of thousands of men, if not millions. As an example of the numbers I am talking about you can estimate how many men are psychiatrists or psychologists or their male patients in the USA alone which has a population of 295,734,134.

 

The World Health Organization's Mental Health Atlas 2005 gives these

figures for the entire USA:

 

"Per 100,000 population

 

Number of psychiatrists 13.7

Number of psychologists 31.1

 

Even if you assume a majority of them are women it still leaves a lot of men, remember, these are men who are either listening or talking about their problems

[fantasia2004]

Well, you already dismissed the examples that I gave you, which included many hundred of thousands of men, if not millions. As an example of the numbers I am talking about you can estimate how many men are psychiatrists or psychologists or their male patients in the USA alone which has a population of 295,734,134.

 

The World Health Organization's Mental Health Atlas 2005 gives these

figures for the entire USA:

 

"Per 100,000 population

 

Number of psychiatrists 13.7

Number of psychologists 31.1

 

Even if you assume a majority of them are women it still leaves a lot of men, remember, these are men who are either listening or talking about their problems

 

No DN. I am not dismissing your examples. Actually you are quite right on some if not all of those statements. Plus I DID NOT EXPECT YOU TO give statistical numbers so you have me there. No one has ever done that before so I am equally impressed. But I did not specify exactly I GUESS I was focusing on married couples where a certain percentage of couples were surveyed as men sometimes are not always listening to wifes and sometimes and visa versa. That was how I was viewing at it.

[DN]

I agree with some men and I agree with vice-versa