Interested in a girl...

[whitefang]

Hi everyone,

 

Im after the best or a few good ways to show a girl that im interested in her, should i get to know her first before asking this girl out?

 

She's attractive, quaint and seems to be semi-popular (can't really think of a better word), she's at my college and she's into horses, so that's something to talk about . I have spoken to her before but i don't know if she remembers me, i also try and check her whilst around campus, if i DO ask her out and she says ok, should i suggest doing something or a date or should i ask for her number or give mine?

 

I haven't dated in such a long time, back to being a novice lol

 

Any advice is appreciated

 

- whitefang

[DropToZero]

Hmmm...an admin asking for dating advice...that's new hehe j/k

 

Well man, you definitely need to be flirting...not just talking about her interests. Whether or not you're good at it I dunno, doesnt seem like it since you're asking this, but we'll see. You just need to talk with her basically, not CARE at all what she thinks of you, and you'll be ever better off. Then after about 5 mins of convo or so, say you have to get to class(whatever), turn to leave, then turn back to her and just ask for her number...and dont try to justify why you're asking for it(she knows), just ask and leave. If she gives it to you, great, call her up in a few days and ask her out. If she says no...just move on. If she gives any excuses, she's not interested in you that way man, just move on too. Do NOT give her your number, even if she asks, just say she'll get it when you call her. If she tries to turn it around and ask for your number, just say nevermind, or something like "It's okay, I'm only gonna call you like 10 times a day, just write it down" and smile. I dont know tho man, you seem like you need more help than just asking a girl out or you wouldn't be asking this type of thing, just my opinion tho, give it a shot.

[whitefang]

Hi, thanks for replying to my post. Yes, even mods and admins have their troubles and stupid akward moments when we need help, mostly me lol

 

I haven't dated in whilte, as you gathered from my post. I feel like a novice and it's annoying, but the info was some help thanks. Trying to get some advice and try and plan something, but more than likely you never follow the plan that you made lol and end making a fool of your self.

 

I haven't had much success with girls, most of them become my friend and then when i try to ask them out it's always that they like me but only as friend at the moment or something like that, which is really annoying.

[DropToZero]

I haven't dated in whilte, as you gathered from my post. I feel like a novice and it's annoying, but the info was some help thanks. Trying to get some advice and try and plan something, but more than likely you never follow the plan that you made lol and end making a fool of your self.

 

THAT right there is why you need more help than just asking a girl out. If you care too much about what she thinks of you and make a fool of yourself, and you're second guessing your every action, you're going to come off as not very confident and you WILL more than likely screw it up.

 

 

I haven't had much success with girls, most of them become my friend and then when i try to ask them out it's always that they like me but only as friend at the moment or something like that, which is really annoying.

 

No...can't ask out friends, that's one of those rarities....it can happen, but its just not very likely. You have to be flirting and having a good time from second one with her...see what I've learned is that most women make a decision within minutes of meeting a guy whether or not you're goin to be a 'friend'...or a possible 'romantic interest.' That's why being a friend from the beginning and playing it safe never really works unless you're really good with women and they just love being around you b/c you're flirting with them so much. Sometimes a girl will go out with a friend just to 'see' what could happen....but it's not because she's really attracted to you, it might be just b/c she's forcing something and wants to see if anything could come out of it. If a girl likes you, most of the time you'll know b/c she'll give out pretty obvious signs to the point that she won't leave you alone....but that usually comes along with all the flirting and teasing I do b/c she wants to be around me more and I'm just really busy. Not trying to get off topic here, but yea, ummm friends is just a safe way of doing it I don't recommend, you need to be meeting other girls, not focusing on one....god I have so much knowledge on this and can't put it all into words b/c I seem to have acquired it now and don't really know how to explain it any longer...plus I get somewhat tired of saying the same things over and over again to dating novices(no offense to you). I'll show you something else tho in a PM..maybe you can learn more from that.

[Strictly4MyGrind]

Hey you said they like you as a friend when you ask them out or whatever? thats because you get to know them to well you proberly leave it too long and they see you as a firend and nuthing else, you gotta make a move before your just a friends. or they mite say this to reject you nicely. gudluck.