i really like her but cant initiate

[perseus]

I have recently started falling for this girl and I am finding it very difficult to initiate anything even if just conversation. I am very shy, and I cant get over it. The more time goes by where I realize how much I like her, the more I keep my distance. I am getting increasingly depressed because of my shyness and anxieties, its preventing me from experiencing what I should be. I want to show her how much I like her without scaring her off. I think about her practically all day. I never know what is right. I want to open myself up to her, get to know her more personally but I just cant do it. When we hang out it's beautiful, but I feel she isnt talking to me as much anymore. She doesnt approach me as much. I was nervous she liked some other guy, but she told me she doesnt like him. But she lightens up around some other guy more than me. He has a gf, I dont think this girl I am falling for has a bf. I have my chance, why can't I take it? The more I think and talk about her the more I like her! Someone help! What can I do?

[smakk]

Hi there perseus, I understand you better than you can think (been there, done that SO many times!). One good advice I got about my shyness was "to take one step further than I dared", maybe not a big step, just push yourself a little. If you don't give yourself a chance and try you will regret it for a very long time and it will only shell you more up then you already have! It sounds like you two are somewhat good friends? Why not call her up, you know, for a chat... "I was just so board I thought I'd call you up and see how you where doing" or is there something she's especially interested in? ask here questions about that, tell here something about your own interests, give her a chance to get to know the real you! You just might amaze yourself! And if it's all for not you two might just have become better friends than before and you will have showed yourself that you can overcome these things! The trick is to take the plunge and just let it ride!

[sisterlynch]

I think there is something really wrong with her. She obviously knows that you like her but she just doesn't care. She is interested in the guy who is already in a relationship with someone else? What does that say about her? She doesn't want a real relationship. She just wants to see a bunch of men who are free and willing to take her places. There isn't enough to her to need someone to complete her. So she looks in unlikely places for a relationship. For her it is common sense--If a guy has a relationship then he must be worth it. He is really no different than you except that he is willing to commit to helping his girlfriend through life with the comfort of his presense. Try and get over her on your own. She will like you a lot better when you show her who you are and what you can do to help her.