Two guys talking to me at once what do I do?

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12 hours ago, ShySoul said:

Isn't the purpose of sending those message to see if you can get a date? So if you are sending multiple messages on a dating site, then you are at the very least trying to date multiple people

^^Shy, I totally get what you're saying, it can be confusing for some people who haven't or don't wish to "on-line date" .... like yourself?

What it is (the way I see it) is more of a "meeting app/site" as its purpose is to "talk" with various people and if there is an interest, arrange a "meet."

At this point, it's not a "date" (in the standard sense) it's a "meet" to determine if there is enough chemistry and connection to want to schedule a "date."

If during the date, the connection intensifies and you both acknowledge there is something "there" worth pursuing further, you begin to "date."

Again all these different terms can be confusing!  But this is my understanding of what "on line dating" means in this context. 

For me, if I read her post correctly, I'm like Sophia.  I don't need tons of dates with various men to know how I feel about one and when I feel that way, I tend to want to focus only on him, date only him to see where it will lead. 

May last a week, a month, a year, 20 years, I am not concerned with the destination, the outcome.   I take it one day and step at a time and enjoy spending time and getting to know each other.   

I typically keep all this to myself for the time being, however fortunately the men I have had relationships with meeting this way have all been on the same page.  As far as I know anyway.  😄

I mean you kinda just know after meeting and having a couple of dates, whether there's something "there," something "happening" between you or not at least I always have.

It's something you "feel," and in my experience it's always abeen mutual. 

I will say it IS rare when it's happened, I've talked to and met many many men over the years via dating apps and only truly connected with very VERY few.

Some others prefer "dating" multiple people until I dunno I guess one stands out from the rest?   

I cannot relate to that personally but it's absolutely fine if that's what works best for them, no right or wrong imo.

Hope that made sense! 😅