I told this guy I was done with him, why hasn’t he deleted me on Social Media?

[Suex]

I had been dating this guy for about six months. The entire time he had financial issues in the beginning he bought me a lot of things. I guess to try and keep me around? A couple of weeks ago I got very upset and I told this guy I was done with him. Because it seemed like he didn’t want to see me. I was pissed off because he could have just told me he didn't have any money. But instead, he kept saying he wanted to see me. When I went off on him he kept telling me I was overreacting. So now I’m just wondering why he hasn’t deleted me. We’ve talked a little bit since then he replied when I wished him a Happy Thanksgiving. When I apologized to him the other day, he said he didn’t appreciate how I lashed out at him even though he knew it seemed shady when he said he couldn’t see me because he had plans at the last minute.

Why won’t he just unfriend me?

[MissCanuck]

 

4 minutes ago, Suex said:

Why won’t he just unfriend me?

Why would he? Not everybody does this when a relationship ends. Some people don't care that much about who is on their socials, exes or otherwise. 

If you want him gone, it's up to you to unfriend him. What are you waiting for? 

[Suex]

Just now, MissCanuck said:

 

Why would he? Not everybody does this when a relationship ends. Some people don't care that much about who is on their socials, exes or otherwise. 

If you want him gone, it's up to you to unfriend him. What are you waiting for? 

Really? This is what most men have done that I've been involved with in the past. 

[TeeDee]

6 minutes ago, Suex said:

Why won’t he just unfriend me?

Why is it his responsibility to do anything?  If you are done, you unfriend him & move along.  

What's the problem? 

The idea that other men have done this doesn't mean it's the norm.  Stop relying on others & take whatever actions you want to take to run YOUR life.  

[Suex]

1 minute ago, TeeDee said:

Why is it his responsibility to do anything?  If you are done, you unfriend him & move along.  

What's the problem? 

The idea that other men have done this doesn't mean it's the norm.  Stop relying on others & take whatever actions you want to take to run YOUR life.  

Why is it my problem? Just because I ended things with him?

[Jaunty]

21 minutes ago, Suex said:

Why is it my problem? Just because I ended things with him?

Now I'm pretty sure you're just joking around here.  

[TeeDee]

26 minutes ago, Suex said:

Why is it my problem? Just because I ended things with him?

You are the one who is upset that he didn't delete you.  You made it your problem.  

[Seraphim]

Delete him , problem solved . 

[Coily]

How hard is it to just make a few swipes with your fingers? 

if he was fiscally robust, would you have thought the same of him?

[SophiaG]

It isn't anyone's problem. Why do you care if he deletes you or not?

[Kwothe28]

1 hour ago, Suex said:

Really? This is what most men have done that I've been involved with in the past. 

Not everybody would just delete and block you. If he thinks he doesnt mind having you on socials and that you dont bother him, why would he block you? Also, as others have pointed, why you havent blocked him? Is it because you want him back now? 

[MissCanuck]

2 hours ago, Suex said:

Really? This is what most men have done that I've been involved with in the past.

Yes, really. 

I have a couple exes on my socials still. No harm, no foul, no dramatic exit needed. I am not sure why you think it's a given. 

If you don't want him on there, delete him. What is the issue? 

[Suex]

1 minute ago, MissCanuck said:

Yes, really. 

I have a couple exes on my socials still. No harm, no foul, no dramatic exit needed. I am not sure why you think it's a given. 

If you don't want him on there, delete him. What is the issue? 

Why won't he delete me? He obviously didn't care enough about me when we were dating so what's stopping him now? 

[MissCanuck]

3 minutes ago, Suex said:

Why won't he delete me? He obviously didn't care enough about me when we were dating so what's stopping him now? 

Because it doesn't bother him if you're still connected, either. He doesn't care if you're on his socials or not, in other words. 

Do your relationships tend to have very dramatic endings or something? 

[Suex]

5 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

Because it doesn't bother him if you're still connected, either. He doesn't care if you're on his socials or not, in other words. 

Do your relationships tend to have very dramatic endings or something? 

So why would he say he cared about if he doesn't? Just doesn't make sense.

[MissCanuck]

Just now, Suex said:

So why would he say he cared about if he doesn't? Just doesn't make sense.

Sure, it does. It's not right, but a lot of people will say whatever they think the other person wants to hear, just to keep them around for their convenience. 

Anyway, it was you who told him you were done. Why do you care so much if he deletes you? You ended it. 

Or were you hoping that he woudl change his tune and ask you for another change? I am starting to think you regret blowing up at him and really don't want to be done with him. And now you're searching for a sign he might still want you, too. Is that about right? 

[Suex]

1 minute ago, MissCanuck said:

Sure, it does. It's not right, but a lot of people will say whatever they think the other person wants to hear, just to keep them around for their convenience. 

Anyway, it was you who told him you were done. Why do you care so much if he deletes you? You ended it. 

Or were you hoping that he woudl change his tune and ask you for another change? I am starting to think you regret blowing up at him and really don't want to be done with him. And now you're searching for a sign he might still want you, too. Is that about right? 

Yeah, I admit that I probably overreacted. But things wouldn't have gone that far. Had he just been honest and said he didn't have any money as for the reason why he couldn't meet me. Instead of making up lies that's the reason why I was so upset. He tried to buy my affection and that's something else that upset me. I can understand that he's been hurt in the past. But that doesn't give him the right to treat me like this. I care about him but when I lashed out it was a build-up. When he said he cared about me I believed him but I guess it was just another lie.

[MissCanuck]

Given all of what you have just said, why do you want hin in your life now?

[rainbowsandroses]

1 hour ago, Suex said:

Why won't he delete me? He obviously didn't care enough about me when we were dating so what's stopping him now? 

Because making a point to delete you or block you is typically an emotional response (as you're displaying now by making this thread and ranting).

And HE doesn't feel emotional, he is indifferent and as such doesn't care either way.  Whether you're still on his SM or not.

Indifference is the true sign that someone has moved on which I suggest you do.

Although people still do block/delete/unfriend when feeling indifferent like your previous boyfriends did, but not everyone does.  

He most likely hasn't even given it a second thought. 

I'm sorry.

 

 

[Jaunty]

1 hour ago, MissCanuck said:

Sure, it does. It's not right, but a lot of people will say whatever they think the other person wants to hear, just to keep them around for their convenience. 

Especially if that other person has a history of "lashing out" when they don't like something.  Don't rock the boat.

[Suex]

42 minutes ago, rainbowsandroses said:

Because making a point to delete you or block you is typically an emotional response (as you're displaying now by making this thread and ranting).

And HE doesn't feel emotional, he is indifferent and as such doesn't care either way.  Whether you're still on his SM or not.

Indifference is the true sign that someone has moved on which I suggest you do.

Although people still do block/delete/unfriend when feeling indifferent like your previous boyfriends did, but not everyone does.  

He most likely hasn't even given it a second thought. 

I'm sorry.

 

 

He's moved on yet he hasn't deleted me yeah ok I guess your right.

[Suex]

I wouldn't have lashed out at him if he would have been honest and told me he was having financial issues. Instead of making up a lie about how he was depressed. I went off because he told me he was depressed and had anxiety and would reach out when he got things figured out. When really he just didn't have money to see me.

[Suex]

He even knew what he said sounded shady because he said so himself. A few days ago he told me he didn't appreciate me lashing out like I did. Even though he knew things sounded shady because of the last-minute plans that he had which kept him from seeing me. I feel like the reason why he hasn't deleted me is because he's watching me he even told me once that he checked my page for something. 

 

[Jaunty]

6 minutes ago, Suex said:

He's moved on yet he hasn't deleted me yeah ok I guess your right.

Great!  It seems that you are starting to see reason.  Keep up the good work!   Now go delete the guy and while you're at it, clean up any other folks you still have on your social media that are not really in your life anymore.  It can feel quite freeing.

[Suex]

1 minute ago, Jaunty said:

Great!  It seems that you are starting to see reason.  Keep up the good work!   Now go delete the guy and while you're at it, clean up any other folks you still have on your social media that are not really in your life anymore.  It can feel quite freeing.

We will see if he's moved on when I decide to reach out to him again.