I forgot her birthday. What do I do?

[catfeeder]

8 hours ago, MissCanuck said:

This does not sound like a very healthy situation, OP. She is going to keep punishing you for this. 

Yep, she sounds like she's 12. She's playing this up, and her drama is over the top.

OP, do you believe that you can't liberate yourself and find someone less ridiculous?

[Kwothe28]

8 hours ago, Alittlehelpplz said:

She did and she said she was too busy and didn’t have time. 2 years off and on 

2 years? You have been playing this game of hers for 2 years? And you dont even know whether you are together or not and its based on her moods?

After all that time together you should have either be together in a relationship or just go separate ways. Since the first doesnt happen, just cut off the losses man.

[ShySoul]

8 hours ago, Alittlehelpplz said:

It’s good. She can be sweet and kind. But it’s been going kind of slow 

Good things come to those who wait.

What I notice is that she comes back to you. She gets upset over something, takes time to cool, then is okay. That's not immature. That's processing feelings.

If you have been together two years, and everything else is good, do you want to throw it all away? Or do you want to make it work? Every relationship has it's ups and downs. Every relationship will hit a rough patch. Doesn't mean it's a bad one. Doesn't mean it should be over. It's not one or two incidents, it's the entire picture. And if the overall picture is good, then you work through the down moments.

I've taken things slow for months and even years. I've dealt with someone who would pull away or be upset at small things and overreact. But I rationally talked to her and worked on it with her. And we came out better each time.

This is your relationship. It has its own unique dynamics. The only one who knows the details are you and her. The only one who knows how you feel is you. And the only one who can decide if it is right for you, is you. If you believe in it and want to fight for it, then do so. Respect her decision. Respect your feelings. Work with her to decide what is best for both of you.

I support you and hope you can get through this like you have before.

[ShySoul]

15 hours ago, Alittlehelpplz said:

She did and she said she was too busy and didn’t have time. 2 years off and on 

You do have self worth. You have enough sense of yourself to recognize you still have feelings and want to make this work. You believe this relationship is worth fighting for.

If it has been going on for two years, probably means you both have strong feelings for each other, despite anything that comes up. Two years is longer then a good number of relationships. And even when she thought she didn't have time, she ended up making time.

None of us are her. None of us have ever talked to her or know anything about her. Don't think it's fair to say she is doing this as a punishment or treating you poorly. We aren't in her head and can't possibly know why she is doing any of this.

The only thing we can really go off of is what she has said. And what she has said is that she needs time and space. She is hurt and confused. She needs to sort out what she is feeling.

Don't jump to conclusions. Don't make either one of you the bad guy. Let her cool down and figure out what she wants. Then come together, talk about it. Both be open and honest. Communicate and work it out from there. 

If you want to be with her, be with her. If you don't, then don't. You're heart knows what is right for you. Trust it.