I still miss him sometimes

[Art_demure]

12 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

I realize it is practised in some places around the world. 

What am I asking is if you think that is even remotely plausible with this man? Why are you even pondering that?

It isn't going to happen. 

No, I know. I just wonder and imagine if I were and I probably would regret it, maybe. 

Well, I will never know

[SophiaG]

Happy birthday in advance!

I do applaud your strength in cutting him off. Not just because it's the right thing to do for his wife and little girl, but also it frees yourself from the unhealthy and unsustainable (as you realized yourself) entanglement and to potentially meet your right person.

It sucks to be alone on your birthday. If you can't use this time to connect with your family or friends, celebrate with yourself as you are always your own best friend. And I'm sure you'll grow and learn from this experience so one day you can look back and think "that wasn't that bad."

[Art_demure]

4 hours ago, SophiaG said:

Happy birthday in advance!

I do applaud your strength in cutting him off. Not just because it's the right thing to do for his wife and little girl, but also it frees yourself from the unhealthy and unsustainable (as you realized yourself) entanglement and to potentially meet your right person.

It sucks to be alone on your birthday. If you can't use this time to connect with your family or friends, celebrate with yourself as you are always your own best friend. And I'm sure you'll grow and learn from this experience so one day you can look back and think "that wasn't that bad."

Thank you, Sophia. I am grateful for still being able to be here. 

Since I am still studying for my psych degree, I do wish that I can get over this and pursue my dream career as a future psychologist.

Sadly my mom is pressuring to marry (it is a cultural thing) and although I do want to marry young if possible, I don't think it is a good idea for me.

I did mention I do not want to treat anyone as a rebound so I am still single. I know many who are still hung up over their exes, so they move onto the next relationship and are only half heartedly doing it just to get rid of loneliness.

I guess right now my struggle is being comfortable of myself and independence.

[SophiaG]

1 hour ago, Art_demure said:

Thank you, Sophia. I am grateful for still being able to be here. 

Since I am still studying for my psych degree, I do wish that I can get over this and pursue my dream career as a future psychologist.

Sadly my mom is pressuring to marry (it is a cultural thing) and although I do want to marry young if possible, I don't think it is a good idea for me.

I did mention I do not want to treat anyone as a rebound so I am still single. I know many who are still hung up over their exes, so they move onto the next relationship and are only half heartedly doing it just to get rid of loneliness.

I guess right now my struggle is being comfortable of myself and independence.

Have you made other friends in the country? Do you have hobbies outside school stuff? I would lean into those areas of your life to move on from him and find happiness again.

[Art_demure]

1 minute ago, SophiaG said:

Have you made other friends in the country? Do you have hobbies outside school stuff? I would lean into those areas of your life to move on from him and find happiness again.

I do made some friends. Hangout with them almost everyday. 

I also sometimes hangout with my neighbours during the holidays

I used to volunteered in clubs, but right now I am focusing on my studies.

I am also doing self business and sell food in the bazaar just for some income to fill my basic needs.

Last month I did join kickboxing and several months ago I travelled around to ride the ferry and even went kayaking, going to the beach, partying in the concert etc.

So I was sort of busy in a way. But not enough

[Batya33]

Happy Birthday and I hope you feel better.

[goddess]

One word, dear Art:  Married.  That's the red flag that you ignored.  Sorry for being so blunt.  He is unavailable and, clearly, he has a low moral compass.  I do commend you for not being intimate with this man who will not ever be committed to you, unless he divorces.  He emotionally cheated on his wife.  Sounds like a complete jerk.  You don't need someone like that in your life.  Try to do your best to block him and, with time, your memories of him will fade.  Trust me.  Best of luck to you, and keep your head high.