Is a divorced woman truly pitiful?

[queena]

Life’s journey can feel long and lonely sometimes, especially when you’ve been carrying it solo for a while. Five years since the divorce, you’ve found strength within, facing life’s highs and lows on your own. But deep down, there’s a part of you longing for someone who gets you, who brings comfort and warmth when you need it most—a companion who knows you, through the good and the hard days, and stands by you just the same. Keep the hope close, because someone is out there, ready to share the everyday moments and to remind you that you’re never truly alone.

[yogacat]

6 minutes ago, queena said:

Life’s journey can feel long and lonely sometimes, especially when you’ve been carrying it solo for a while. Five years since the divorce, you’ve found strength within, facing life’s highs and lows on your own. But deep down, there’s a part of you longing for someone who gets you, who brings comfort and warmth when you need it most—a companion who knows you, through the good and the hard days, and stands by you just the same. Keep the hope close, because someone is out there, ready to share the everyday moments and to remind you that you’re never truly alone.

Thank you for the PSA. ♥️

[queena]

I hope you find true love and happiness forever.

[shouldhavelearned]

Hope it happens soon 

[queena]

We absolutely will, and we’ll be happy forever.

[shouldhavelearned]

Let's go

[queena]

Let’s go

[lostandhurt]

To answer your question:  No a divorced woman or man is not pitiful, the union they once formed with hopes dreams and love is no longer but the person remains.  In fact the person that remains is often times wiser and knows what they want and what is truly important.

Lost

[queena]

Yes, when a woman goes through a lot, she stops believing in fairy tales. Instead, she becomes rational and independent, knowing what she truly wants. But this clarity often comes only after enduring countless times in her own personal hell.

[Batya33]

5 hours ago, queena said:

Yes, when a woman goes through a lot, she stops believing in fairy tales. Instead, she becomes rational and independent, knowing what she truly wants. But this clarity often comes only after enduring countless times in her own personal hell.

I believed in fairy tales when I was a little girl.  I didn't go through hell.  I was always independent minded.  I always was goal oriented and ambitious.  I did take the long way around to become the right person to find the right person as far as my personal/romantic life but I endured no hell.  Disappointment/frustration/sadness -oh yes for sure -I assume that's fairly typical.  But hell? No.

[lostandhurt]

5 hours ago, queena said:

But this clarity often comes only after enduring countless times in her own personal hell.

For some I am sure but for many they learn from good parents, pay attention to the people around them and learn from their missteps and troubles.  To be sure we all learn as we go but when we find ourselves in anything that is described as hell we chose to stay way to long.

I often think how wonderful it would be to do relationships in reverse taking the ones later and pushing them to when we are young but of course without the life lessons we learn as we go those relationships could just be a mess as well.

Lost

[queena]

From another perspective, perhaps these relationships and challenges are the catalysts that help us grow. Maybe every experience, whether painful or smooth, has its unique value and helps us become better people. 

Everyone, keep going, and I wish you all the best as you move forward on your journey.

[shouldhavelearned]

What do you want Queen?

[queena]

You’re lucky—I once had a terrible marriage.

[queena]

I want so, so much, LOL.

[shouldhavelearned]

Please tell, I'm here 

[queena]

A soulmate, that's a luxury to ask for, haha. I shouldn't have such high expectations.

[shouldhavelearned]

Nah

High standards and expectations go far

[Kwothe28]

Are you divorced or also a single mom? I ask because divorced women don’t usually get too much scrutiny when it comes to dating. While single moms do have unique challenges regarding it and are not really high on dating hierarchy. 

[Batya33]

8 hours ago, queena said:

A soulmate, that's a luxury to ask for, haha. I shouldn't have such high expectations.

No one is guaranteed to find the right person let alone a soulmate.  I never expected it as a guarantee.  Some don't believe in soulmates or seek one -they seek the right person to be with long term and are happy and in love despite not needing that person to be a "soulmate" (which has varying definitions anyway).

What do you do proactively for personal growth -is that something you're interested in or active with? 

[queena]

But how much luck would it take to meet someone like that?

[queena]

For two compatible people to be together, the differences between them shouldn’t be too big, because being together requires adjustment and change. This process can be joyful, but it can also be painful. 

Both people need to grow together; that’s the only way they can go further in the long run. If I meet the right person, I’m sure I’ll do something about it.

[Kwothe28]

1 hour ago, queena said:

Both people need to grow together; that’s the only way they can go further in the long run. If I meet the right person, I’m sure I’ll do something about it.

I am sorry but that is a Hollywood movie perspective of a relationship. They meet, they are perfect for each other and grow together despite the flaws. Real life is different. To meet the right person you would have to be the right person. For example, lots of messed up people have uncanny ability to meet other messed up people. Due to the fact they are both a mess and attract each other in that way because they see themselves in other person. 

If you need something major that needs work(mental issues, extreme jealousy, possessiveness etc.)you work that out before you meet somebody. Its extremely unlikely that you would just work those issues out during the relationship. More likely that issues would be your relationship end. That is why healthy mindset is important. Because we cant expect from others to just accept our flaws or work them out with us. They would more than likely just leave. Or, again, stay if they are also a mess. That is why you work that stuff prior and not during relationship. 

[shouldhavelearned]

Let's go 

[queena]

Love is too difficult—an equation that can never be solved. I’ll just focus on being myself! If God favors me, he’ll bring the right person into my life.