How young is too young for sex?

[OlderForYoung]

Hello all, this is my first post here. I am just asking for people's opinions on age gaps when it comes to sex, as I think it's much different to relationships. I am a 47 year old bi man from UK and having regular hookups with men aged 18 to 24. I look young and I am approachable, like to chat a lot, so get along with lot of younger people than people my age. I don't like relationships. 

I am currently having regular hookups with an 18 year old man I met online. We chatted and got along, had some things in common, and eventually we started having sex. It's been going on for 3 weeks so far, but I received mixed views from friends and family so I just keep it to myself now. 

 

 

[Seraphim]

Do you have proof he is 18? 

[ShySoul]

As long as both sides mutual consent and are of legal age, why should it matter what anyone else thinks? 

Sex is a personal, private thing between the people involved. If they are okay with it, then it isn't anyone else's business.

[OlderForYoung]

9 minutes ago, Seraphim said:

Do you have proof he is 18? 

Yes of course 

[Seraphim]

1 minute ago, OlderForYoung said:

Yes of course 

Then no one else’s business. You don’t have to advertise the person’s age . 

[Connie88]

Youngest I go 25.

[ShySoul]

Both of my brothers were in relationships with a ten year age gap. One they were older, the other they were younger. I've been interested in someone 13 years older. My boss was married to someone over 20 years older.

If you connect with someone, it doesn't matter what the gap is. If you both want to be together and care about each other, just be together. No one else's opinions really matter.

[mylolita]

Hi OP,

 

You have posted here before and on another parenting forum I read myself with the same username. 
 

I’m not quite sure what you’re after but you’re personally making me feel very suspicious. Why so close to the minimum age when you are well into your 40s? 
 

I’m not sure why you keep asking about this. Why do you need these guys who are barely men (more like boys) to look and be so young? 
 

I mean, it’s legal if he really is 18, but it doesn’t leave a great taste. 
 

Some people will be okay with it, others will not care, some will think it’s immoral - you’ll get a wide range of opinion but I really can’t get my head around why you are asking on so many different forums? 
 

And a parenting one at that which, to me seems quite creepy, I’m sorry.

[ShySoul]

As long as you are both legal (which you say they are) and you both consent to it, then you aren't doing anything wrong. You are two adults makiing a mutual decision. Some people will be fine with it. Some people will judge you for it. What counts is how you and your partner feel about it. Anyone else's opinions aren't really important. You love who you love and you are with who you want to be with.

You mentioned in another thread about people forming opinions about age gaps. I'm guessing you are uncomfortable with all the judgements so are questioning if you are doing the right thing or if it is as messed up as some people are probably telling you. It's okay. Such a large gap isn't common, so you will get comments. But you shouldn't let that get you down. They aren't in your shoes. They don't know your life. 

What I'm wondering is why are they hookups? Do you see yourself wanting more then that? Have you had relationships? There's nothing wrong with what you are doing. I'm just doubtful that you'll find what what you're really looking for that way. And that you have to keep asking if it's okay, might be a sign that internally, it's not as fulfilling as you might think.

Wishing you well.