I removed him from social media to heal

[ShySoul]

If you go into something expected there to be red flags and problems, you will make yourself more aware of potential problems. You risk exaggerating small things into major issues and ignoring good signs.

If you go into something expecting everything to be perfect and only see the good, then you set yourself for disappointment and potential pitfalls and bad behavior.

Neither way is good.

The key is to approach things openly and honestly. Recognize the person for who they are and see both the good and the bad. See if the bad is simple human mistakes that we all make, or if it really is a sign of danger. At the same time, don't lose sight of the good in them. Focus on the postives. Most people are good, but many people can't see that because of walls and barriers we build to protect ourselves because of past pains. They let the few bad apples spoil the bunch.

[Tammy101]

A final update: The week following our breakup, he contacted me to arrange exchange of belongings. We agreed on this taking place at my home. I asked him to continue contacting me by email as I no longer wished to have contact via watsapp.  The following Friday he confirmed the time he would be dropping my things and I email back to acknowledge and confirm. I decided to extend an apology to him in this email for my sudden and accusatory breakup without talking to him first. I went on to admit that after getting vulnerable with him both emotionally and physically, I felt hurt by his sudden change of behaviour and zero communication following our trip. I wishes him all the best.

He replied by saying "thanks, no hard feelings. You don't need to be home when I drop your things, there is nothing to talk about. Our communication styles are just way too different. All the best". That evening he blocked me on Facebook. Not that it matters, but he did not block me on Instagram (I had already removed him from my social platforms a week earlier). He told me in the past that he had blocked his exes on FB, so maybe it's just his thing. 

Currently I am healing and moving on from this confusing experience.  I would lie if I say that it didn't hurt and felt like a blow to the gut when someone could be so into you one moment, and icy cold the next. However, I will move on and learn from this.

Thanks for all the supportive feedback.

[SophiaG]

20 minutes ago, Tammy101 said:

Currently I am healing and moving on from this confusing experience.  I would lie if I say that it didn't hurt and felt like a blow to the gut when someone could be so into you one moment, and icy cold the next. However, I will move on and learn from this.

Sorry you're hurting. His response is consistent with someone who was never too emotionally invested. Hope you'll feel better soon!

[ShySoul]

His behavior is constant with a person who is trying to move on and heal himself, someone who doesn't want to hold onto hurt and understands that making this into an ordeal won't be good for either of you. 

I am sorry it didn't work out. You will heal and you will have better loves. The sudden change is difficult to understand and comes to grips with. But you will find peace with things eventually. There are better days ahead. Hope they come soon for you.