How Can I Be More Successful With Girls?

[Senezis]

Hey everyone, I'm looking for some honest advice on how I can be more successful when it comes to dating and building connections with girls. I know there's no magic formula, but I want to understand what really works. Are there particular traits or habits I should focus on developing? What mistakes should I avoid?

I'm trying to be genuine and improve myself, so I'd love to hear your thoughts or stories of what has worked for you. Any specific do's and don'ts, or practical tips, would be really helpful. Thanks in advance!

[TeeDee]

Be interesting & interested  

You yourself have to have something going on.  What do you like to do?  What are you studying?  What makes you unique? 

When you are confident & comfortable in your own skin, that draws others to you in a positive way. 

Once you make that 1st connection keep it by genuinely caring about what they are saying & doing.  Employ active listening skills but do keep it lighthearted & flirty

[Zaku-II]

#1 piece of advice I can offer is know what you want and why. This is going to be the main reason you'll struggle with dealing with others when trying to find someone, because they likely don't know what they want & they almost certainly won't know why they want it. Do you want a platonic friend? Okay, WHY? Do you want a romantic relationship? Okay, WHY? Do you want a wife? Okay, WHY? Once you've identified WHAT you want, understanding WHY you want it will help you find it. For example, if you want marriage because of religious reasons, then you can start your search in a church. If you want a platonic relationship and just want to be friends with a woman, then you would start your search with a shared hobby, etc.

[catfeeder]

3 hours ago, Senezis said:

I want to understand what really works.

What 'works' to achieve what? Are you seeking a long term relationship, are you out for casual dating, or do you just want casual sex? 

[tattoobunnie]

3 hours ago, Senezis said:

Hey everyone, I'm looking for some honest advice on how I can be more successful when it comes to dating and building connections with girls. I know there's no magic formula, but I want to understand what really works. Are there particular traits or habits I should focus on developing? What mistakes should I avoid?

I'm trying to be genuine and improve myself, so I'd love to hear your thoughts or stories of what has worked for you. Any specific do's and don'ts, or practical tips, would be really helpful. Thanks in advance!

Unless you are a young teen, start by calling them women. This will actually make you think differently in how you are as a person, and how you treat others.

There is no magic formula, just as there is no magic formula for a man.  

But the best advice I can give you is understanding who you are, what your needs and wants are, and your life goals.  The rest will follow.

[smackie9]

Confidence wins the girl. 

[Cherylyn]

It's been awhile since I've dated my husband but I doubt times have changed that much regarding what women look for in a man. 

Before even mentioning traits and habits,  usually women want to know where you're at in life such as your career,  realistic career goals and visions for your future.  Why?  Because it's obvious.  Women are drawn to men who have motivation and drive to get somewhere in life preferably upward,  not stagnant nor downward. 

Women of marriageable age don't want to waste everyone's time.  They envision a future with you.  Will it be strife with hardship and struggle or a fairly comfortable,  stable life with you?  Women choose the latter and not the former.

If you've got that covered,  of course,  personality and character must be attractive in order for the relationship to endure.  Common sense suggestions would be the following:

Be humble and modest.  Never interrupt.  Be interested in her which requires a selfless attitude.  Mind your manners.  Be good to others because she will observe how you treat others.  Be a gentleman,  be kind and gracious.   Never be an embarrassment.  Watch what you say because once you blurt something disrespectful,  you can't take it back.  People have acute memories and they'll never forget how you made them feel.  A haphazard mouth has harsh consequences.  🤨

Have an intelligent sense of humor.  Be witty but don't over do it.  Make her smile 🙂 but don't be goofy nor idiotic. 

Be self confident without being cocky.  Never be a jerk.

Don't be a cheap tipper. 

These are the types of traits I had noticed in my husband immediately.  I wasted no time snatching him during our early 20's.  He was a catch and I won the lottery with him.

Be compatible.  My husband and I are similar in how we speak,  write and act.  We think alike.  Granted,  we're not clones of each other but neither of us are out of whack.  Don't be weird.  Be evenly yoked.

Are you faith based?  Do you share the same religion or not? 

Where do both of you see each other years down the road?  What types of visions and goals are there?  What types of hopes and dreams? 

Have a healthy lifestyle.  Exercise,  eat smart,  no drugs nor drinking. 

Be neat,  clean,  organized and don't live a cluttered,  sloppy life. 

As for don'ts,   there are plenty due to my observations of some neighbors,  relatives,  in-laws,  colleagues and society in general.  Don't say anything inappropriate.  Think before you speak and write.  Don't use foul language.  Don't be two faced;  one for when you're on your best public behavior and a private,  unsavory character with those closest to you.  😠 

Be very moral and trustworthy because nothing else matters.

 

 

[Batya33]

6 hours ago, Senezis said:

Hey everyone, I'm looking for some honest advice on how I can be more successful when it comes to dating and building connections with girls. I know there's no magic formula, but I want to understand what really works. Are there particular traits or habits I should focus on developing? What mistakes should I avoid?

I'm trying to be genuine and improve myself, so I'd love to hear your thoughts or stories of what has worked for you. Any specific do's and don'ts, or practical tips, would be really helpful. Thanks in advance!

Try to behave so the other person feels comfortable in their own skin.

Listen more than you talk and listen actively -not while rehearsing what to say next.

Show up on time for dates, look nice/be nice including to wait staff and service people-especially them.

Plan a date in advance and suggest a fun activity whether expensive or free.

Carry yourself with confidence, give enough personal space, compliment in a genuine way and not just on looks.  

Be reliable -if you say  you will call her at a specific time, do that. if you suggest another date time and place and you promise to confirm or check into details, do that and do that in a timely way.  

Do not refer to exes especially in a negative way, avoid gossip or derogatory comments about other people.  

Find things to genuinely banter and laugh about.

[redswim30]

The best advice I can give is this- 

Make sure you are pursuing people that are like- minded and have similar interests. 

I sometimes see people struggle when they go for people based on only looks, and are stunned they don't succeed when they have nothing in common with that person. 

Then meet people in spaces where you're commonality thrives- IE if you're a bookworm, go to book events, if you're a cinephile, go to film festivals, if you're into Sports, go to places that show games. 

It's not just about "being a good person", though that definitely helps.  It's about meeting like-minded people that you may be compatible with.  Your success rate will instantly be better if you're tuned into this and as another poster said, when you decide what type of relationship you want. 

[ShySoul]

Don't try to be successful. Don't try to build connections, meet people, be confident, act a certain way, etc. Don't think there is any specific thing you need to work on. 

Just be you. Be your real, authentic self. A woman will either like you for who you are, or they won't If they aren't interested in you romanticaly, then it wasn't meant to be. And the right person for you won't require you to have to do anything to have "success." It will flow naturally because the connection you have will be innate. It will be as if you are drawn together because you fit together, two pieces of a puzzle making a much more interesting picture together then apart.

That's what worked for me. I embraced my natural personality and stopped caring what anyone else thought. I stopped thinking I needed to do something to be more sucessful and was just me. And that was when my natural light shined and women took an interest.

Otherwise, be a good person. Which really you should be doing anyway. Be the kind of person you want to be. Be nice, considerate, generous, trustworthy, a good listener, etc. Treat all people with respect and kindness. A woman should be treated well. Having traits that show a good heart speaks to the quality of who you are inside. Those are the skills that make a relationship last. That is what we all crave in the end, someone with whom me can feel safe and secure with, someone who we trust, someone who understands us, and someone whom we feel loved by,