I found out my wife cheated on me, she says she was drugged. No idea what to do

[TeeDee]

21 hours ago, lomi said:

I just want to know what you think, because my head is going to explode. Of course, I need to work this out on my own, but I just want someone, who can look at this objectively, to tell me their opinion. The woman I thought I knew would never do those things, or say those things, so that went out the window. I'm angry, but you are right, if we want to work this out, we need therapy, I just need someone else's perspective on this. Sorry for bothering you with my problems.

We think she was raped.  

The woman you know did not do these things.  They were done to her, without her consent.  

I'm encouraged that you want therapy but please make sure your wife gets IC especially rape crisis counseling.  

You are not bothering anybody.  Having a place to discuss problems is the purpose of forums like this.  

[lostandhurt]

8 minutes ago, TeeDee said:

I'm encouraged that you want therapy but please make sure your wife gets IC especially rape crisis counseling.  

 If you have doubts then help her get into see professionals in dealing with these situations.  They will know what to do and as you both work through this together the answers you seek will show themselves.

  Personally I am dubious of this whole thing as so many things simply do not add up but your wife and victim always gets  the benefit of the doubt.

 Have you discussed getting her in to talk to a rape counselor?  Any type of therapist?  This is the number one thing you should be concerned about right now.  The marriage and all the other stuff can wait until your wife is seen by people who can help her because there is a long road ahead for her.

I wish you the best, I am out.

Lost

[shouldhavelearned]

How is this still going?

[MissCanuck]

12 hours ago, shouldhavelearned said:

How is this still going?

This thread, do you mean? 

[Seraphim]

Yeah , because people tape their cheating and send it all around . Sure . 🙄

[smackie9]

Like I said on the other site...this guy is a predator, manipulative, dangerous and very calculating. He recorded it to make sure it would look consensual in a court of law if she were to prosecute. Date rape drugs are more complex than ever. They are now designed to have the victim look and sound coherent, very accommodating/nonresistant but consciously, that have no idea or any recollection of what had happen.

[rainbowsandroses]

@lomiis there an update?

How is everything going, has she agreed to talk with a professional about this, have you found more clarity, do you feel any better than when you first posted? 

I DO hope all is well and that you're both okay.