Do I still have a chance with him after he blew me off?

[MissJenniferlula]

I tried reconnecting with a guy that I had a fling with at work when I noticed that he was no longer with a co worker he dated after me. I wasn't particularly looking for a relationship but companion and good time and see where it leads. So I messaged him one night and ask how his night is, to which he responded good and nothing else.

 

I tried to keep the conversation going but I wasn't engaged or seem enthusiastic compared to how it was when we were seeing each other. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt in case he could be busy or wasn't in right state of mind to talk or something. So the next day I was more forward and ask if he would be interested in meeting up and possibly hook up. He never responded. I was on vacation around this time for 2 weeks and he never wrote back

When I saw him at work, I was afraid it was going to be awkward but he was friendly and didn't make reference to it. I thought he was going to avoid me but it was opposite. I left it alone but still held on to the possibility 

Then one day I wanted him to pass the message to another co worker sister who was working same shift with her ...she forgot her wallet with important cards in it since I didn't have her number. He said sure. Then when I got home I followed up and messaged him when he was still at work to remind him in case he forgot. He texted back and said " wrong number "

I was confused since he was responding to that number not too long ago and I could still see his WhatsApp profile pic. So I said isn't it (his name)? he stopped responding from that point and the next day I noticed he was back with the other co worker. They only lasted a week before they broke up again.

I decided to keep my distance and only talked him when necessary for work..once I backed off, he started talking to me more. That's when I finally confronted him about the number thing and told him how it was rude..his answer was he got a new phone and all his contacts were deleted and mentioned some of his friends who couldn't get hold of him. etc and apologized and said he thought he had told me etc

My thing is, he acts interested in person and get jealous if I talk to other guys..but it's like he is hesitate to rekindle things

Is there a chance?

 

[Cherylyn]

He doesn't sound serious about you.  I'd move on if I were you.  Since he's at your workplace,  act natural,  say 'hello' (or 'Good Morning'),  be cordial yet keep a safe,  professional distance. 

[AuthenticSelf]

37 minutes ago, MissJenniferlula said:

I decided to keep my distance and only talked him when necessary for work..once I backed off, he started talking to me more.

I would say this is the right move. 

People want what they cannot have. 

What I see is he had you under control before so he took you for granted. Once you decide to keep distance, he realized he lost you. 

The pain of losing you is higher than pleasure of having another girl. 

So, I am curious, if you guy come together as a couple, what do you see yourself in 5 years? 

 

[MissJenniferlula]

48 minutes ago, AuthenticSelf said:

I would say this is the right move. 

People want what they cannot have. 

What I see is he had you under control before so he took you for granted. Once you decide to keep distance, he realized he lost you. 

The pain of losing you is higher than pleasure of having another girl. 

So, I am curious, if you guy come together as a couple, what do you see yourself in 5 years? 

 

But when I tried connecting outside work, he hardly engage. Would he blew me off if he were truly interested?

[Batya33]

You want to rekindle -a fling? Why go to such lengths to rekindle a fling especially with a coworker?

Never ever buy an excuse about getting a new phone -people who want to be in touch with you especially someone who wants to  get to know you for a potential relationship -will find a way.  There is always a way -and it's easy -you work together!  I'd move on from this especially since his interest in you and you in him was not really focused on anything potentially long term so it's not worth all this pursuing and strategizing and thinking just to find someone to have an occasional good time or hook up with IMO.

[Andrina]

2 hours ago, MissJenniferlula said:

My thing is, he acts interested in person and get jealous if I talk to other guys..but it's like he is hesitate to rekindle things

He sort of likes the ego boost that you want his body, but he's just not into you enough to put any effort for anything whatsoever--fling nor serious.

[AuthenticSelf]

1 hour ago, MissJenniferlula said:

But when I tried connecting outside work, he hardly engage. Would he blew me off if he were truly interested?

What happen if you stop trying connecting outside work?

Is he only talk to you when you guy are both at work?

Is he jealous when you talk to other guy at work? 

[shouldhavelearned]

Move on

[MissCanuck]

9 hours ago, MissJenniferlula said:

Would he blew me off if he were truly interested?

No. 

This isn't going anywhere, so I would urge you to stop communicating with him. 

[TeeDee]

I think you are barking up the wrong tree.  If he wanted something more with you he would have taken action by now.  

Spare yourself.  Move on. 

[Coily]

The fact that he's not pushed for more since; tells me that you just need to move on.

[smackie9]

It comes down to this....he doesn't want to "hookup" or do anything with you outside of work. WHY? Would it make any difference to know? Not really. My advice is to get the hint and move on. There are plenty of guys out there that would love to hookup and have fun with you. Leave this guy in the dust.