Friends?

[n1a_xo]

I've been friends with this guy since 4th grade, i always sit at his class lunch table to talk to him, but I don't know if I actually like him, and everyone shipped us because of how we talked 24/7 hours and others. but still, I can't tell if I like him, or if he likes me, when i beg for stuff somehow he still buys it for me, somehow I want him to talk to him every day and I want him to like me. even though i don't like him back 

 

what should i do? >-<

[Andrina]

Stop using him to buy you things. Stop giving him the wrong impression that you like him more than a friend. If you wouldn't want a guy to treat you like you're treating him, then don't be a hypocrite and be crappy to other people.

[HeartGoesOn]

34 minutes ago, n1a_xo said:

what should i do? >-<

Your post is confusing.  It would be helpful if you could clarify your questions.

[smackie9]

This is called the friends zone...you get along like gang busters, it feel good but it doesn't feel like a crush on a celebrity, no daydreams, or passionate feelings. You need to slow your roll. This dude is in love with you and you know it. Now you are feeling guilty, and fear if you don't feel the same, you will lose everything. It is what it is....it's gonna get to a point where you will meet someone you know you really have feelings for and it will crush this guy to bits. Stop using him. Stop accepting gifts, and spend more time with others, or bring others into your circle.

[ShySoul]

Figure out what you want. Forget what anyone else says or tells you. They aren't you and should have no bearing upon your relationship with this guy. Look inside yourself and see how you really feel about him.

Do you get excitied to see him? Is he the one you want to rush to and share good news with? Do you feel you can trust him with anything, the one you can really open up with? Does he make you feel on cloud nine whenever you are together? Does he give you butterflies in the pit of your stomach? 

Or is he a friend with whom you enjoy their company, but you don't see anything further?

The only one who can sort out your feelings is you. If you decide their might be something there, talk to him and make it official. Go out and see what happens. If you don't think you feel that way, still talk with him and clarify everything. Just be friends with no obligations (eg don't be begging for things) and have fun together as friends do.

Trust your heart. It knows how you feel and will be your guide.

[catfeeder]

3 hours ago, n1a_xo said:

I've been friends with this guy since 4th grade, i always sit at his class lunch table to talk to him, but I don't know if I actually like him... when i beg for stuff somehow he still buys it for me, somehow I want him to talk to him every day and I want him to like me. even though i don't like him back 

Big difference between liking a person for who they are versus craving their attention. You're exploiting this guy to feed your ego. That's not caring, it's not ethical, and it's your own problem that you're using to harm him.

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...everyone shipped us because of how we talked 24/7 hours and others.

I don't understand what this means. If you've been excluded by others because of your focus on this guy, that's a problem that will impact you and your reputation for the rest of your school life.

It could be because others feel excluded by the two of you, or it could be that people sense you are using the guy and don't want to witness that. Either way, you'll do better to solve the problem by mending your relationships with other people and encouraging the guy you don't even like to do the same.

And stop asking the guy to buy you things. Buy him something as a peace offering, and tell him that every time you ask for something, he should remind you that you're being rude.

[NighttimeNightmare]

22 minutes ago, catfeeder said:

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...everyone shipped us because of how we talked 24/7 hours and others.

I don't understand what this means

“Shipped” is a term for wanting to see two people become a couple

so all of her friends wanted to see them as an item because of how often they talked and were together all of the time. Her friends shipped them. 

[ShySoul]

37 minutes ago, catfeeder said:

I don't understand what this means. If you've been excluded by others because of your focus on this guy, that's a problem that will impact you and your reputation for the rest of your school life.

Shipped as in "relationshipped."

They already spent all their time together, so people started teasing or assuming they were in a relationship. 

Generally used in fan communities to partner up specific characters or actors.

 

[rainbowsandroses]

4 hours ago, n1a_xo said:

I've been friends with this guy since 4th grade, i always sit at his class lunch table to talk to him...

^^Bolded, OP how old are you?   Are you even in high school yet?

4 hours ago, n1a_xo said:

I beg for stuff somehow he still buys it for me...

^^Where did you learn this was an acceptable thing to do?  A kind thing to do?

You're using him and that is the opposite of acceptable or kind. 

My take on this assuming it's a real situation (honestly I'm not even sure anymore) is you like his attention not him.  Big difference that I hope you will learn when you get older.

Please learn to be kinder, good luck.

[Cherylyn]

Sounds like it's just friendship and I wouldn't accept anymore gifts from him.  Decline nicely.  Let him save his wallet instead of spending hard money on you.

Take a step back and accept friendship or pump the brakes and be an acquaintance.

[yogacat]

6 hours ago, n1a_xo said:

what should i do? >-<

Start buying your own stuff.

[ShySoul]

34 minutes ago, yogacat said:

Start buying your own stuff.

Probably costs to much. So I'll make an addition:

Get a part time job, then buy your own stuff.

Or depending on the age, get your parents to give a bigger allowance, then buy your own stuff.

[yogacat]

36 minutes ago, ShySoul said:

Probably costs to much. So I'll make an addition:

Get a part time job, then buy your own stuff.

Or depending on the age, get your parents to give a bigger allowance, then buy your own stuff.

I had a part-time job when I was in high-school. I paid for my own stuff. Albeit, I had a high-school boyfriend and he bought 70% of my stuff but it was reciprocated. As an adult, I have a male friend I went on a date with after he asked me, I didn't feel romantic towards him, and we remained semi-friends. We went out a couple times, I always offered to pay for myself but he paid anyway. So, I treated him to homemade pizza.

OP, it's okay if you're not sure about your feelings. Just be honest with yourself and him. If he invests too heavily in you, feel free to buy him things that are under $5 (food?). I think in these cases, it's best to put some distance when you know for sure you're not interested romantically.