misterlonely Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 Is this typical? I like this girl, and I'm pretty sure she likes me too. But, for some reason, every time I try to talk to her or say hi, I freeze up. Sometimes I can manage a smile or something. What should I do? Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 Is this typical? I like this girl, and I'm pretty sure she likes me too. But, for some reason, every time I try to talk to her or say hi, I freeze up. Sometimes I can manage a smile or something. What should I do? Yes, it is very typical. In fact, it's normal. Give us some more info. Link to comment
Mr. B Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 Well it's normal and I doubt saying "don't freeze up" will help you much. You could, however, ask yourself why your so nervous? You believe she may like you, definitely good for you. It's also important to realize that this girl is a mere mortal like yourself, with the same insecurities and such. Link to comment
skyteph Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 You're putting this girl on a pedistal. Just think about how she has bad hair days and used to wet the bed too! Link to comment
DropToZero Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 It's normal for guys who care too much what the person they're talking to thinks of them....and yes I used to be like it, so don't take it personally. I'm not like that anymore tho man, I can talk to just about any girl that I feel I may be interested in... I've posted about this so many times tho...like the girl above said, you're putting her on a pedestal, you need to learn to block out all those bad idea that you think are going to happen, when in reality there's like a 99% chance they AREN'T going to come true...learn to STOP CARING....the more you care about what she thinks, you're goin to fumble words...stutter...screw up otherwise, and she WILL pick up on it...its a huge sign of low self confidence in yourself and your abilities. It only gets easier with practice...maybe its not best to practice on the girl you like tho, just practice with any girls, ask random girls for the time(dont be wearing a watch lol)...directions...anything....then move on, start asking other questions...things only get easier with practice in this world. Link to comment
smallworld Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 Yep it's normal! With anyone I have problems talking to, I find it helps to come up with a list of topics ahead of time of things we might have in common. (i.e. Hey! How'd you do on that test? Or have you seen ?) Every once in a while throw a compliment her way to let her know you find her attractive or like something about her. (A girl can live off a compliment for weeks, so no need to over do it.) The important thing is to keep the interaction between you positive, fun, and flirtatious as possible. Have fun! Link to comment
misterlonely Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 Well it's normal and I doubt saying "don't freeze up" will help you much. You could, however, ask yourself why your so nervous? You believe she may like you, definitely good for you. It's also important to realize that this girl is a mere mortal like yourself, with the same insecurities and such. First off: I never told myself "Don't freeze up", because telling yourself not to do something is just going to make you do it more. For whoever asked me for more information: what kinds of information? Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 For whoever asked me for more information: what kinds of information? Like how old are you two? Where do you see her and how often? etc... Give us a background and maybe we can offer some suggestions. Link to comment
igwmuchas Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Well I agree with smallworld, its a good idea to pick out a conversation starter, just try not to overthink it and have a whole dialogue planned, just a simple question to ask after a nice "hey" or something. Try not to overanalyze. And I dont know how well I can explain this, but I'm going to try. Put yourself in her position, and imagine someone approaching you and freezing up, how would you feel, you wouldnt get mad or scared would you? So why would she? So just think it cant hurt to say hey, and if she does get mad is she really the type of person you want to be with? It helps me when I freeze up, maybe it will for you. I hope I explained that ok, I tried but I dont think it turned out 100% the way I wanted it to. But what ever does Hope that helps Link to comment
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