Anonymous123456 Posted September 6 Share Posted September 6 Been in a relationship for 4 years with my boyfriend. Been having fights off and on and near breaking it off but never have. He gets mad at me for taking a nap, not going to the gym everyday, or eating unhealthy. He said he hates laziness but I work 40 hours a week in a high activity job so when I get home or have days off I’m tired. I feel so worthless and not valued. Any thoughts? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted September 6 Share Posted September 6 Why are you tolerating and putting up with his nasty, rude and bullying behavior? Do you value yourself? Does he see you valuing yourself by showing that you're not a doormat when he behaves this way? Yes I'd end this relationsip because you two are not relating in a respectful let alone loving way. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 6 Share Posted September 6 18 minutes ago, Anonymous123456 said: He gets mad at me for taking a nap, not going to the gym everyday, or eating unhealthy. He said he hates laziness but I work 40 hours a week Sorry this is happening. Do you live together? Is he abusive and controlling in other ways? Please research abusive relationships . Talk to trusted friends and family about what's really going on. If you live together, move out. Please call a domestic abuse agency to talk to someone about this and get information support and advice. Link to comment
Coily Posted September 6 Share Posted September 6 How old are the two of you? Is he a gym bro? Link to comment
Anonymous123456 Posted September 8 Author Share Posted September 8 On 9/6/2023 at 6:17 PM, Coily said: How old are the two of you? Is he a gym bro? 23 and yes Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 It sounds like he's looking for excuses to be "mad" at you so he can eventually end it and make it your fault. I wouldn't tolerate this sort of disrespect. 1 Link to comment
Coily Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 1 hour ago, Anonymous123456 said: 23 and yes Having dealt with that sort of fellow in the past, they tend to hyper focus on specific routines. When you "aren't making gains bro" then in that sort of mind you are being "fat and lazy." Which explains why he gets mad at you for what he does. Now that's no excuse, as I find that an insufferable attitude. You have to ask yourself, is that the lifestyle you want? One where if you vary from it you get berated. 1 Link to comment
smackie9 Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 Sorry but his lifestyle is his lifestyle...you two are not compatible. Why the hell are you putting up with him berating you? You leave him girl. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 On 9/6/2023 at 5:50 PM, Anonymous123456 said: near breaking it off but never have. He gets mad at me for taking a nap, not going to the gym everyday, or eating unhealthy. I think you already know he's an abusive control freak. Trust your instincts. You've tried to end it before, this time follow through. Link to comment
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