its over.....

[deviousj420]

this myte be a lil long but please read n advice

sunday we broke up

saturday i agreed to leave my best friends reception @ 9 - it was over at 10 - because he didnt trust me to be ther n he didnt go (he wasnt invited, my friend n him dont get along because of the way he treats me) he then wanted to go out fora drive but without me n of course i said no because he made me leave early - granted i was goin to bed but i wasa bridesmaid in the wedding n tired as anything

anyways.... sunday we agreed to spend the day together - his friend stopped over n he then asked me if he could go ridin for and hour - which woulda turned out longer then just an hour - i said no cuz he agreed to spend the day with me n it always seems hes ok bein with me until sumthin better comes up - so we got in2 an argument then he was in the garage talkin to his friend n they were talkin shtuff about me - so i went in there n cleared up what mario was sayin - then i mentioned how he shouldnt be ridin anywas since he dont havea license - he got mad n his friend left to 7-11 - we were in the house arguin n lately hes been shovin me but he says its because i make him crazy - well then he punched me in my mouth - he had asked me to leave n told me he didnt want to be with me anymore but i didnt want that to be - he made my lip bleed then i left - i had to come back cuz i 4got my fone - then i mentioned in front of his friend that he hit me n his friend left n mario went in the house

there he told me he was serious cuz of the bullshoot i pulled(tellin his friend he didnt havea licnese and how he hit me) n he said that was the end - it was over , i left n have since had no contact

i was ok sunday for the most part then yesterday was kewl but now today i find myself thinking about him n maybe hes sorry n hell change his mind n maybe i shold just wait a few more days till he calls me or sumthin, or is he waitin for me to call him

i kno are relantionship has been rocky from the start (1 1/2 yrs ago) but i dont want it to end because i kno if we try hard n with a lil more effort on his part we could be fine

but i dont think/feel he wants to make that effort - i have this other boy who is madly in love with me despite all the shtuff i put him thru n he still stands by me and wants to be with n inside i kinda feel like hes my soulmate but i want mario

i have to stay strong

please - if anyone has break up advice, poems, songs to listen to - to help me get over him n move on - or how to get him back

i duno im sad - i love him

help...

[WakeUp]

I'm not an expert on advice as I'm going through a tough time right now myself, however I can tell you that since he hit you, you need to get out now before it gets worse!

 

If he started shoving you and now he hit you, what's next? You owe it to yourself to make sure you are safe, first and foremost.

[djedix]

If he punched you in the face, get the hell out of there as soon as possible.

 

Tell your family, and stay away from him...

 

The only way he's going to change is if he wants to change... I've learned you can't make people change. They have to be willing to want to. He doesn't seem too willing. Especially since his answer to the issue at hand was making a fist and planting it on your face. I know you love him, but as your going to realize from being here, and the people who respond after this, that.. This is not a healthy relationship. Get out before he does something else stupid.

[ReadyorNot]

I dont know why you would want to be with him....

 

Get out while you can....

[lunatic]

WOW a First for I am at a loss for words and I dont even have a clue as to where to start here....

 

we were in the house arguin n lately hes been shovin me but he says its because i make him crazy - well then he punched me in my mouth - he had asked me to leave n told me he didnt want to be with me anymore but i didnt want that to be - he made my lip bleed then i left

 

First off NO MAN SHOULD EVER PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE! NEVER! If I ever saw this jerk in the street and I knew he hit a woman I would punch him in the face to see how he likes it. GET OUT OF THERE!!!!!!! -You deserve better!

 

saturday i agreed to leave my best friends reception @ 9 - it was over at 10 - because he didnt trust me to be ther n he didnt go (he wasnt invited, my friend n him dont get along because of the way he treats me)

 

WTF is that... You were in a friends wedding and he was not invited because of the way he treats you. Gee if that is not a sign of things to come then I dont know what to tell you. GET AWAY FROM MARIO.

You know that most men that abuse women are from households of abuse. Plus they are nothing but cowards inside even though they put on this tough guy attitude.

 

then i mentioned how he shouldnt be ridin anywas since he dont havea license - he got mad n his friend left to 7-11

 

This guy sounds like a real loser sweetie and you deserve better. What he cannot afford a license or he cant pass the test? Which one? I bet both! What a loser!

 

I am sorry to be so tough on you but, why would you want to be treated like this when there are so many men out there that would give you the world? Do you think it is ok to be treated like this being punched and pushed around? Were you an abused child and you think this is a normal relationship activity? The worst part is that guy that loves you will never get a chance with you because there is no challenge to getting him.

This man Mario needs some anger managment counseling. He has major issues with the way he treats you and the way your friends have reacted to him is the way I can tell.

 

If I were you I would have gone to the police and informed them that he hit you. Put that on his record and also let them know that he rides a Motorcycle without a license.

 

My advice is to leave this one in the past and start a new chapter in your life. It is time to do what you want to do (within the legal limits) lol j/k

I would get out with my friends and keep super busy because the longer you sit there and think about this jerk the more likely your going to be back there again.

 

No one deserves to be treated the way he treats you! NO ONE! You deserve way better and you will find that person one day. Do yourself and us here at enotalone and DONT EVER GO BACK TO HIM! He will oneday hurt you bad at the rate he is going and maybe even kill you. Watch out because this guy is the one your mother warned you about!

 

RUN FOR THE HILLS AND FORGET HIM because it is HIS loss that your not in his life anymore!

[RayKay]

i kno are relantionship has been rocky from the start (1 1/2 yrs ago) but i dont want it to end because i kno if we try hard n with a lil more effort on his part we could be fine

 

Positive healthy relationships are not rocky, do not have you living on eggshells, do not have physical abuse, emotional abuse and manipulation, lack of trust and extreme jealousy. And you can't force someone to try harder and put more effort in. How do you know "you will be fine" if you have never even BEEN fine? You are asking to be treated this way by staying with him and accepting it - sweetie this is NOT normal or healthy in ANY way.

 

Besides, 'fine' is not good enough, and I doubt it will ever happen with this guy. He PUNCHED you damn it, he does not trust you, he is controlling and a jerk. Stop being his doormat and punching bag and drop him. Now.

[lunatic]

Exactly RayKay!

[Hope75]

I agree 100% with everything Ray Kay said. In no way, shape or form was that relationship healthy or good for either of you.

 

This guy treated you like a piece of meat, read your post and think about it. First he controlls you by telling you that you have to leave your best friend's reception early, and why wasn't he invited? Because your best friend doesn't like the way he treats you.

 

Then he breaks plans with you and and then HITS you!

WAKE UP GIRL, This is black and white abuse, control and manipulation and this loser isn't going to change. No one deserves to be treated this way. If I were you I'd be pressing charges for assault.

 

Good, healthy relationships are based on love, trust, and mutual respect and caring for each other, this guy exhibits NONE of those traits, and you would be a fool to go back to him.

 

Stay away, and if he calls you, tell him to get lost or you will call the police, I don't know why you didn't in the first place.