How do I end this relationship?

[Colls]

Long story made short. I met this guy online and we started talking on the phone after awhile. He lives about an hour away from me and has been asking me to spend some time with him. Trusting him isn't the problem, the problem is now I really don't want anything to do with a relationship with him. I like him alot, and he says he likes me too. I was talking to him and when we were hanging up I could have sworn he said I love you. Which is way too fast for me. I want to be single right now, because I have been through a lot lately.

 

I want to know how to tell him we shouldn't meet just because if we meet I kno i will fall more for him. I dont want to hurt him or drag this out more, I just wnat to end it and take all the blame myself. Even if it means he goes away upset with me, I wouldnt enjoy that but I dont want him to think I'm doing this because of him.

 

What should I tell him?

[DragonGirl724]

I want to know how to tell him we shouldn't meet just because if we meet I kno i will fall more for him. I dont want to hurt him or drag this out more, I just wnat to end it and take all the blame myself. Even if it means he goes away upset with me, I wouldnt enjoy that but I dont want him to think I'm doing this because of him.

 

What should I tell him?

 

tell him the truth:

" I want to be single right now, because I have been through a lot lately. "

 

and thats it.

 

dont blame yourself for this not workin out. if you dont want it you dont want it! its no ones fault! the heart wants what the heart wants..and the same goes for what the heart DOESNT WANT. dont throw yourself a pity party over this. pity parties are no fun b/c face it youll be partying by yourself.

 

just break it to him you want to be single and not ready for a BF.

 

YOURE NOT LYING! you cant live your life doing what you dont want to do just to make someone else happy...cmon now.

 

-DG724

[SummerLove]

I have to agree. You shouldn't do something that isn't in the best interest for you. Listen to your heart. I know how it is when you just aren't in the position to have a bf. I was just recently going through a tough time and it took me 7 months to finally be able to comfortably mingle with the guys. It was a lengthy period of time, but I sure did need it. Sometimes people need to just be by themselves. I'm sure he'll understand if you let him know how you feel. If he doesn't, then you found out in advance what kind of person he is. I don't think you should completely cut all ties with him though...that would seem kind of cold. Tell him that you just need a friend and not a bf right now.