How do I flirt with this pretty guy?

[KatyaK]

I am 18, and I am currently studying in high school, and there is one guy at my school who I sometimes have classes with, and I have been checking him out a lot for a couple months now.
I would really like to approach him in some way, but the problem is that he is very, very attractive, to the point that a lot of things get really difficult.
I always see girls sit and gaze at him, make themselves pretty for him and flirt with him, and I have also seen groups of girls invite him to their home parties, and girls always try to sit next to him during the lessons.
I have had brief conversations with him a couple times, and he seems like the humble type, but he is definitely aware of his popularity.

Do you know any way to get his attention in a good way?
I would really like to try that before we get summer break in about a week..

[Big Stan]

I have done a good amount of corporate work and had some really good mentors when it comes to sales and communication. Because of this I believe that you can ask anyone any question you want if you do so in a respectful way. 
 

If he is a nice and humble guy as you say just ask him in a simple and respectful way and then let him decide. How would you ask him to pass the ketchup bottle if you were sitting across from him on a picnic bench?  The important thing is to not fixate on his answer. 
 

Whether he says yes or no is out of your control and it doesn’t matter because even a no puts you in the exact position you are in now. The important thing is learning how to respectfully ask for what you want from another human being. This applies to everything in life. Almost every person can ask a stranger for a basic courtesy. We just freeze up when we feel the stakes are higher. 
 

When the answer is dependent on other people your part is really never any more difficult no matter the question. Just like the ketchup example, if you ask in a desperate way it will be weird but in a plain and respectful way it will be fine no matter the answer. If you ask him to pass the ketchup like “hey I realllly neeeeeeed ketchup it’s soooooo wonderful can you pleeeease pass it to me” he’s going to look at you strangely. 
 

Asking him out is no different. Pick something you like about him that’s not superficial and say hey I noticed this about you and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to go to X place with me sometime and chat?  
 

Make the thing not about his looks. If he is as good looking as you say people tell him that a lot. I know this from first hand experience. Telling me I look hot doesn’t do much for me. Telling me you like an aspect of my personality or you like something you know I’ve worked hard on gives me validation and I’m more likely going to respond positively. 

[Batya33]

1 hour ago, KatyaK said:

I am 18, and I am currently studying in high school, and there is one guy at my school who I sometimes have classes with, and I have been checking him out a lot for a couple months now.
I would really like to approach him in some way, but the problem is that he is very, very attractive, to the point that a lot of things get really difficult.
I always see girls sit and gaze at him, make themselves pretty for him and flirt with him, and I have also seen groups of girls invite him to their home parties, and girls always try to sit next to him during the lessons.
I have had brief conversations with him a couple times, and he seems like the humble type, but he is definitely aware of his popularity.

Do you know any way to get his attention in a good way?
I would really like to try that before we get summer break in about a week..

Try to catch him again when he is alone and ask him what his plans are for the summer.  Depending on the answer say you'd really enjoy keeping in touch and offer your contact info.  Other than your attraction to his looks do you think you have stuff in common?

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, KatyaK said:

I have had brief conversations with him a couple times, and he seems like the humble type, but he is definitely aware of his popularity.

It's fine to have a crush. Smile be friendly, make some small talk and get to know him a bit. You could invite him to go do something together.

[Cherylyn]

Strike while the iron's hot.  Before summer,  be bold,  start chatting,  be friendly,  walk together and ask him he'd like to meet for lunch or coffee.   Ask for his cell phone number.  Don't wait until summer.  He'll most likely become busy with a summer job,  socialize with his friends or buddies,  vacation with his family,  etc. 

[KatyaK]

Thanks everyone, yeah I have had a couple talks with him in the past, although it has only really been when we have had small talk with other classmates and I have found some opportunities to talk to him there. I found myself stuttering a bit, and throwing a lot of glances at him the whole time, both before and after we talked.

My biggest concern at the moment has been that he has been invited to parties multiple times by groups of girls who have flirted a lot with him, and his reaction has been to smile and look flattered by it - this has happened probably 3-4 times by now, either before or during lessons, and it makes me quite jealous, since anything could happen at those parties.

But yeah, I will try to flirt with him in a warm and friendly way next time I see him, and try to ask him if we can meet some time.

[smackie9]

I hate to burst your bubble but, you should keep in mind that there is a possibility he could be gay/ maybe not openly gay. He's very very attractive, has all these ladies fluttering around him and yet there isn't a one on his arm. 

[KatyaK]

Just now, smackie9 said:

I hate to burst your bubble but, you should keep in mind that there is a possibility he could be gay/ maybe not openly gay. He's very very attractive, has all these ladies fluttering around him and yet there isn't a one on his arm. 

I have heard from some of his friends that he has had several girlfriends in the past, and I have noticed him sitting with different girls and eye-flirting with them on a couple occasions, so it seems as if he is straight.

I realise that there is a possibility that he is more into "short flings", and maybe isn't very open for relationships, but I feel that I want to give it a try anyway.

[smackie9]

Well if you want to stand out, don't be like all those girls that are throwing themselves at him. Gotta keep it cool and not show any serious reaction. As they say to be attractive is to be less available. Make sure you look real good/sophisticated, be in his space but don't acknowledge him much. They desire more what they can't have. Be smooth, and carry yourself with confidence. 

[Cherylyn]

2 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Well if you want to stand out, don't be like all those girls that are throwing themselves at him. Gotta keep it cool and not show any serious reaction. As they say to be attractive is to be less available. Make sure you look real good/sophisticated, be in his space but don't acknowledge him much. They desire more what they can't have. Be smooth, and carry yourself with confidence. 

I agree.  The forbidden fruit always tastes sweeter! 

[KatyaK]

Yeah, I have noticed that I have taken some extra time to look as pretty as possible, just to get him to notice me. This has involved things like making sure that my hair looks good, and take a lot of care of my skin and wear pretty and colorful clothes and everything. But I will of course also try to flirt with him next time I get that chance.

[Coily]

If you really want to catch his eye, be forthright with him. Subtlety and flirty behavior seems to be flung in his direction all the time. He would (like most guys) appreciate a gal who could be herself and not put on ritual of HS dating.

You want a shot at dating this guy, just walk right up and give him your number, tell him something you like about him, and then go about your day (while being nervous as all get out). Also don't play things so cool that you wait days to respond or other mind games. 

This whole mind game crap is what he's getting from all the other girls. Be you.

 

[Batya33]

47 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

I hate to burst your bubble but, you should keep in mind that there is a possibility he could be gay/ maybe not openly gay. He's very very attractive, has all these ladies fluttering around him and yet there isn't a one on his arm. 

I too was wondering the same.

[KatyaK]

13 minutes ago, Coily said:

If you really want to catch his eye, be forthright with him. Subtlety and flirty behavior seems to be flung in his direction all the time. He would (like most guys) appreciate a gal who could be herself and not put on ritual of HS dating.

You want a shot at dating this guy, just walk right up and give him your number, tell him something you like about him, and then go about your day (while being nervous as all get out). Also don't play things so cool that you wait days to respond or other mind games. 

This whole mind game crap is what he's getting from all the other girls. Be you.

 

Yeah, I have promised myself to approach him as soon as I see him next time, and this will definitely e this week, as long as he isn't sick or anything.

I have found myself acting a bit silly a few times when I have looked at him, and I guess it isn't a problem, but I have noticed that I have subconsciously given off some subtle "naughty" vibes, like gazing at him while biting my lips and playing with my hair a lot, or starting to adjust my clothes a lot and things like that. I do snap out of it quite quickly, but I don't immediately realise when it happens. I guess it is something that will sometimes happen when you look at a really really attractive guy.

[Coily]

1 minute ago, KatyaK said:

 I guess it is something that will sometimes happen when you look at a really really attractive guy.

I'll have to take your word on that. haha.

But seriously, don't stress over giving off vibes, just focus on being you and standing out for who you are.

[KatyaK]

4 minutes ago, Coily said:

I'll have to take your word on that. haha.

But seriously, don't stress over giving off vibes, just focus on being you and standing out for who you are.

Yeah, I will definitely try to talk to him this week.

I kind of feel a bit embarrassed when I catch myself giving him those sultry looks, because I have got the impression that he is a really sweet guy, so I don't want him to think that I just view him like pure eye candy like that. Of course, I don't know him that well at all yet, but I do feel that I would probably like him a lot if I got to spend time with him.