Ex boyfriend messing with my head

[cheryl22]

So I have been on off with a man in prison who I knew as a friend before he went in I stood by him got him whatever he wanted we were on off for about two year. Same time he was writing to other women we would break up for seven months a time due to his mood swings and didn't trust him. I found out he has a new girl friend and has for a while well safe to say he's loves her and never loves me I'm only 21 he's 45 I feel like I imagined everything he's turned and tried to get me harmed he was replying to my letters when I needed to urgently speak to him now he's turning everything badly on me I feel so down and worthless I really hate him he's degraded me cheated on me the lot mean while he was with her he shouldn't of wrote back to me been all sweet and caring knowing he was with her.

[Batya33]

Please block him and get support from family or a mental health professional if needed. This man is not healthy for you to be in contact with. I’m sorry you’re upset. 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, cheryl22 said:

So I have been on off with a man in prison who I knew as a friend. I got him whatever he wanted .Same time he was writing to other women. I'm only 21 he's 45.

Sorry you got caught up in this.   What is he in for and for long?

It's extremely poplar for prisoners to write love letters all day to a variety of women in order to get things they need and line up a place to stay when they get out. As you can see, he roped you into "getting whatever he needed". 

You need to talk to trusted friends and family about this. Please cut this sociopath off completely. He was just using you.

[cheryl22]

He had a life sentence and yes I believe that now he's used me for what he could get her mirdered someone says was self defence in a fight all lies and now he's had me stalked off mutual friends he's isolated me and even slept with a few my friends in the past we didn't even have a visit due to COVID closures of visits and rows he didn't even used to call me hardly he's made me feel so tiny and trying to make out I'm jealous of the new one he's flaunting more fool her because he won't change. Thank you for your reply 🙂

[cheryl22]

5 hours ago, Batya33 said:

Please block him and get support from family or a mental health professional if needed. This man is not healthy for you to be in contact with. I’m sorry you’re upset. 

He has made me so miserable and the police are involved due to stalking me through his friends since I found out about his new one he's went off it and got violent because I found out even though we been over he's used me and manipulated me and I believe there's been others he's fleecing I feel so rock bottom. 

[Batya33]

I’d make sure the police are aware of all. Pls stop all contact. Right now your physical safety is more important in the very short term. Talk to trusted adults about your sad feelings- if you feel rock bottom by what a very mentally  imbalanced person is typing to you you should get help but right now make sure he doesn’t have people on the outside who can harm you on his behalf. Im sorry you are involved with such a violent and unstable individual. 

[MissCanuck]

You need to speak to the police, OP. This person is dangerous. 

And get yourself to a good therapist immediately. It is frightening that you have gotten involved with a lowlife like this to begin with, 

Have you got any supportive friends and family around you?  

[cheryl22]

54 minutes ago, MissCanuck said:

You need to speak to the police, OP. This person is dangerous. 

And get yourself to a good therapist immediately. It is frightening that you have gotten involved with a lowlife like this to begin with, 

Have you got any supportive friends and family around you?  

 

19 hours ago, Batya33 said:

Please block him and get support from family or a mental health professional if needed. This man is not healthy for you to be in contact with. I’m sorry you’re upset. 

 

[cheryl22]

Just now, cheryl22 said:

 

 

 

I haven't got any friends no more he's either slept with them in the past or caused trouble for me with them part of his power games yes I do feel scared at the man I got involved with he lied want he did was a accident but I found out the truth the new one is welcome to him I tried to warn her to protect her from him the man is a wolf in sheep's clothing all protective caring ana loving all show he will anyone to get what he wants x shame I wasted all these years been controlled and bullied and manipulated by a beast like him x

[Batya33]

55 minutes ago, cheryl22 said:

I haven't got any friends no more he's either slept with them in the past or caused trouble for me with them part of his power games yes I do feel scared at the man I got involved with he lied want he did was a accident but I found out the truth the new one is welcome to him I tried to warn her to protect her from him the man is a wolf in sheep's clothing all protective caring ana loving all show he will anyone to get what he wants x shame I wasted all these years been controlled and bullied and manipulated by a beast like him x

I'd deal with the wasted time once you are in a safe location.  I'd have police involved and if there is a place of worship in your community or a women's shelter, go there and ask for resources- not to stay there- but for resources given the situation.  You will be able to make new friends. Right now your safety is the priority.

[Lambert]

I am so sorry you got into this situation.  But you really have to talk to someone that can advise you and help you make better choices.  This guy is a dangerous predator.  He is not a good person to keep in your life.  Contact the police or as others have suggested, go to a place of worship, a shelter etc.

Do you work or go to school?  Do you have anyone you can talk to?  A manager, teacher?  

You can move on from this and have a better life.  Get away and leave him in the past.  

[cheryl22]

RT Thank u I was working but had to go on sick leave due to my depression and anxiety I feel afraid to leave my door because off him thank u for support everyone