Callia Posted Thursday at 02:57 PM Share Posted Thursday at 02:57 PM So, there is someone I know who I am NOT allowed to date because of workplace policies (however, I don't see him often at all). In the past he was very flirty with me, and would touch me all of the time, caress my hand, touch his feet to my feet, tell me that he likes me. He even started giving me hugs. And I feel lonely and I like him a great deal (terrible I know) so... About a year ago I reached out to him on Skype. I have no idea if he got my message (it might have been an outdated account) but he said to me recently "I'm not on social media"). I didn't know if this was in reference to my attempts at contact, to discourage me, or if it was in the context of our conversation, in which social media came up... Anyway, I care about him a lot and I've been worried about him since he'd seemed very stressed and not himself/irritable recently. This last time I saw him I told him that I'd been worried about him and he confided ALL of this stuff in me (about his family, their health problems, his own health and some "personal problems.") He told me he is now drinking less. Also, my appearance came up and he said two or three times "you are beautiful" and also he kept commenting on my clothing and how great and healthy I looked. He really was almost acting like he was in awe of how I looked. I mean, he made several comments and kept babbling on about my appearance. So here is my question. In the past I felt like he was hitting on me, making innuendos and suggestive comments but I feel he's toned it down a bit, hasn't been as touchy-feely, told me he's not available on social media, etc. So I'd begun to think maybe he's not interested in me anymore. In this context, how do you read the comments about my appearance and the fact that he was confiding in me SO much??? Would he act this way if he didn't like me? After all, isn't it meaningful for a man to keep telling a woman she is beautiful?? I found out he has taken an extended leave of absence from work so I won't see him for some time--if he even returns, that is. I am so worried about him and so heartbroken. (In hindsight, he'd hinted to me about his leave but I didn't realize it at the time). This is a real-life situation and I'm only human. It's confusing and stressful to have these feelings but also not know what his intentions are. Without being hateful--I know this is a controversial topic--can you tell me what you think is going on in our connection? Do you think he has feelings for me? What is he looking for? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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