account1122 Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 I generally have mild depression for which I'm getting treatment. I have been feeling even more depressed and anxious because of thoughts about going back home. I love my mom a lot, but I am sort of distant from my dad. I don't know if I even want to go home. If I do, it'll be for 3 days at most.... I have a gym here, my friends here, and everything. I didn't make many friends in my hometown where I grew up in, which Is where i'm going back to. I made more friends in 6 months than I made in 2-3 years after high school... In NYC, I won't have my car and Idk it would be harder for me to do things I normally do like work out at the gym, hang with friends, etc. I know i don't have to spend a lot of time at home, but I hate thinking about even traveling back there.... Idk, I just don't want to go back home. I think about going though, staying only 2-3 days but that'll cost me $400. I mean i'll do it, but I still feel depressed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1a1a Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 You don’t have to go home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
account1122 Posted March 14 Author Share Posted March 14 13 minutes ago, 1a1a said: You don’t have to go home. i told everyone i'm going home. and i feel like everyone will laugh if i don't.... my parents are also expecting me to go back home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 1 hour ago, account1122 said: i told everyone i'm going home. and i feel like everyone will laugh if i don't.... my parents are also expecting me to go back home. Do you really believe that 'everyone' cares whether your plans change? Have a phone call with your Mom and let her know that you're feeling stressed about traveling to NYC, and you feel a need to decompress with a staycation. Would she or both parents be willing to come to your town to visit you, instead, or maybe meet halfway and enjoy a nice hotel for a few days? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1a1a Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 Both of catfeeder’s suggestions are excellent 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 3 hours ago, account1122 said: I just don't want to go back home. I think about going though, staying only 2-3 days but that'll cost me $400. How long have you lived away from NYC? When was the last time you visited? How often do you generally visit? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
account1122 Posted March 14 Author Share Posted March 14 25 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: How long have you lived away from NYC? When was the last time you visited? How often do you generally visit? 6 months ive lived away, i generally visit every 6 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smackie9 Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 So why not bring someone with you? And then head to the city and be tourists? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coily Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 Have you considered meeting your parents for a weekend outside the City? There are plenty of very nice places to consider, maybe even halfway between you and them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indea08 Posted Thursday at 02:11 PM Share Posted Thursday at 02:11 PM I don’t think you should go home. Clearly, you don’t feel good about it, and I think that’s worth listening to. Wait another six months. Maybe by then, you’ll actually miss home and look forward to a visit. It does not matter how anyone else feels about it, it’s your decision and it’s perfectly okay to make it for yourself. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lambert Posted Thursday at 03:02 PM Share Posted Thursday at 03:02 PM Maybe skip it this time. You have to prioritize your mental health and self care. If you want to invite your parents to come to you or meet somewhere, that's a good compromise. But only if that's what you want. Don't trade one stress for another. It's ok to choose YOU. Stay home. Enjoy your life. This could be exactly what you need. As others have said, people generally only focus on themselves and won't give it a second thought if you change your plans. Especially if you just own the decision. As in- I just decided it works better for me to change the plan. People who don't understand or whatever, well they are not your problem. Put your energy towards the good in your life.... what serves YOU. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cherylyn Posted Saturday at 08:03 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:03 PM Don't put yourself in an uncomfortable environment. Have a long, loving, phone chat with your mother. I know it's not the same but it's better than being stuck at home for 2 - 3 days with a distant dad which will be very stressful and angst filled. If you decide to go, then 2 - 3 days will go by fast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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