SunshineBaby7 Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 So you live on private property and a family member that doesn’t live on your road (this is about 80 acre private road with maybe 4 family members/houses) follows your parents to your house. As they are following your parents to your house, they decide to cut them off, ride their ass and then get out of the car and approach them asking them why they did not stop. Your parents eventually get to your house and get out of the vehicle and explain they did not know who you were and they were not stopping because they felt uncomfortable by the way the family member was driving etc. Anyway, I guess he was in the process of dropping off a nephew at their house and the said family member basically said he didn’t know who’s vehicle was coming down the road and wanted to ask them and they wouldn’t roll their window down or stop for him so that’s why he followed them to our house (no explanation for the erratic driving)…He ended up getting pissed once my hubby confronted him in the driveway basically telling him it’s not his place to police our road because he doesn’t live down it and how he acted was completely uncalled for to act like that toward my parents but was completely caught off guard and had no clue why he acted the way he did. **This family member married into the family and is a step son (40yrs old) **This family member does not live on our road and has never lived on our road The nephew ended up immediately getting out of the truck and walking home because he was embarrassed by how his uncle acted and 30 minutes later came down to apologize to my parents for how he acted but I am kind of shocked that we haven’t received some sort of apology on his end for how he acted. We also don’t really associate with him, maybe see him once or twice at family gatherings but the entire situation just has me shook… I guess I should just not expect an apology from him at this point, even then if he apologized, I don’t think I could forgive him for being so bipolar about something so random… Anyway, I just venting because it has me frustrated. Quote Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 This family member has been diagnosed bipolar by a doctor? 1 Quote Link to comment
SunshineBaby7 Posted March 13 Author Share Posted March 13 4 minutes ago, boltnrun said: This family member has been diagnosed bipolar by a doctor? Honestly, I don't know or think so, I don't really know him even though we've been married for 10 years it was very random. I am still very much so shocked by the entire situation. I could never do that to someone we don't know on our road. We have Amazon drivers etc. that come down our road as well and I'm like..... is he going to police and act like that toward every single person... Quote Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 21 minutes ago, SunshineBaby7 said: Honestly, I don't know or think so, I don't really know him even though we've been married for 10 years it was very random. I am still very much so shocked by the entire situation. I could never do that to someone we don't know on our road. We have Amazon drivers etc. that come down our road as well and I'm like..... is he going to police and act like that toward every single person... I asked because in your title and OP you said he is bipolar. Quote Link to comment
Jibralta Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 If he hasn't done that before, maybe he won't again. Could something have recently happened that provoked him to be defensive? Quote Link to comment
SunshineBaby7 Posted March 13 Author Share Posted March 13 1 minute ago, boltnrun said: I asked because in your title and OP you said he is bipolar. Ya, I just assume so based on his actions. my apologies. Quote Link to comment
SunshineBaby7 Posted March 13 Author Share Posted March 13 1 minute ago, Jibralta said: If he hasn't done that before, maybe he won't again. Could something have recently happened that provoked him to be defensive? Nope nothing, he just wanted to ask them who they were and I assume was agitated that they wouldn't stop... but in their defense, they didn't know him and based on him driving they def weren't going to stop . Quote Link to comment
Jibralta Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 I wouldn't have stopped either. Yikes. If I were you, I'd let everyone in my family know what happened. Don't try to get people to take sides, just let them know so that they can be aware. The situation may self-govern itself. In the meantime, don't hold your breath waiting for an apology. You just have to watch out for that guy. Some people get off on policing other people's actions. Hell, some people get off on policing other people's thoughts or even the words they use. They can't seem to help themselves. 1 Quote Link to comment
SunshineBaby7 Posted March 13 Author Share Posted March 13 21 minutes ago, Jibralta said: I wouldn't have stopped either. Yikes. If I were you, I'd let everyone in my family know what happened. Don't try to get people to take sides, just let them know so that they can be aware. The situation may self-govern itself. In the meantime, don't hold your breath waiting for an apology. You just have to watch out for that guy. Some people get off on policing other people's actions. Hell, some people get off on policing other people's thoughts or even the words they use. They can't seem to help themselves. Yes, I felt the same way based on what my parents explained; and by your response. I felt like at some point he would come back an apologize but then I'm like maybe he is just bipolar and sees nothing wrong with what he did. I will def keep my head on a swivel going forward regarding myself, family and children for sure! Quote Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted March 13 Share Posted March 13 If there's one thing I've since learned about human nature long ago, it's to never expect an apology from anyone. In fact, most people in my life would never apologize to me in a million years due to unwavering, steadfast denial and worse yet, they end up gaslighting me endlessly or turn it around on me to make me look like the villain and not they. Take what you can get whether it's an apology or silence because it's the best anyone will do for you. Save the sweet, sappy, idyllic admittance, humble, sincere apologies to make amends or reconciliation for storybooks and movies because most times, it's not real life. It's a cruel world we live in. Grow accustomed to it. Nothing surprises me anymore. No more shock and awe over here for me. Never. Been there done that. Quote Link to comment
Seraphim Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 Unless you are a psychiatrist who has extensively tested said person please stop saying someone has a severe mental illness. My father was professionally diagnosed bipolar by four separate psychiatrists. Those people with mental illness have enough stigma without made up stuff. 1 Quote Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 I agree, if this person hasn't shared with you their diagnosis by a medical professional, it's irresponsible to call them "bipolar" just because they behaved rudely or aggressively seemingly without any provocation. Do you see this person regularly? Can you say this behavior is out of character for them? I do think his behavior was unnecessary and overstepping, but I wouldn't call it "bipolar". Quote Link to comment
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