Beebee1234 Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 I live with my ex partner as we split 4 weeks ago. We have a joint mortgage and two children. We had been in a relationship together for over a decade. We’re still quite friendly as the split was mutual as we’d fallen out of love with one another. I’m not sure if that spark will ever return. In the meantime we are working on finding our own individual happiness. I’m lucky that he works unsociable hours so it’s not like we have to spend every evening together. He said he will be the one to move out (eventually) but said that time apart in the meantime would be healthy. I have suggested that when he is away for two nights with work that he check himself in to a B&B for a further three nights so he can get a taste of what life would be like living on his own. He said he would think about it. The biggest problem which he will openly admit is that he doesn’t know what he wants… and I won’t put my life on hold whilst I wait for him to decide if he wants to be a single guy or a family man… I know 5 days apart non contact isn’t a great deal of time but that would be the reality if/ when he leaves due to work commitments he would only see the children twice a week. I’m not sure if it’ll achieve anything but thought it was worth a shot to see if we feel differently afterwards… This may come across that I am FOR us getting back together but I feel like only time will tell as right now I would say I enjoy his company when he is around as another adult/ friend but not romantically no. I’m a strong, independent woman… it certainly doesn’t scare me being on my own and I haven’t shed a single tear over the break up. But I think deep down there is that thought in the back of my mind that what if I miss him? I’m guessing that probably a normal… Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? Quote Link to comment
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