Chaeryoung Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 Hi everyone! I had other posts here, but what intrigues me lately is a particular question. I will briefly tell my situation and I would kindly ask your your opinions. I grew up in a very abusive environment (alcoholic father, used to beat me and my mom, and my mom used to beat me as well due to her unhappiness and frustration). As I grew up I began to realize how damaged I am from an emotionally point of view and I emerged into psychology and self-analysis. I worked on my self, I arrived to a point in which I am very self aware and that helped me in my last situationship. I was seeing a guy for four months who also has some emotional wounds/issues. He cannot attach to people (according to him), he has a fear of relationships in general and he always made sure to share the fact that he doesn't feel the same towards me as I feel towards him. I continued with it because he was actually behaving really nice, we did outdoor activities together, he was always respectful and always behaves as if he cared. However, we had to end things because he could not continue. He told me that it is not fair on his part to keep me there if he doesn't know what he wants or feels. What I want to stress here is that we had our moments when we shared details about our pasts. The day I knew it was over, I told him a traumatic event between me and my father. I wanted him to understand and emphatize with me despite knowing everything was over. We ended up on good terms, but I guess he felt like pity for me, because he invited to for Christmas to his parents' house due to the fact that my relationship with my parents is not that great. What I also fear is, what if I scared him away with sharing this past trauma? Although I guess I am a bit irrational because he made it clear beforehand that he has a problem with relationships in general. Well, everything ended 2 months ago and I am still trying to make peace with it. I might not have been that coherent, sorry for that. Quote Link to comment
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