OliviaJJJ Posted Thursday at 02:11 AM Share Posted Thursday at 02:11 AM 2 hours ago, jwrunner81 said: I haven't been on here for a few weeks since I recently started a new job and have been very busy, so I thought I'd post an update. It has now been exactly two full weeks since I've heard a peep from this guy. Not a single call, FaceTime, or text message. I sent him a couple of texts 10-11 days ago, but he never responded to them and he hasn't contacted me in any way. He called me on March 1st very briefly while he was in Florida and then texted me once later that same evening, but that was it. He just completely dropped off after that. I don't know when or if I'll hear from him again and I have no idea what's going on with him, but I frankly no longer really care. He ghosted me and it's his loss. It was a total jerk move on his part. He was probably never all that serious to begin with and clearly has issues. I have moved forward and I'm now dating a local guy who lives only 45 minutes from me and it's going amazingly well so far. We had our first date last Sunday, which lasted 8-9 hours, and we spent almost the entire time laughing so hard that we cried. I won't get into all of the details since it would take too long, but it was the most imperfectly perfect/hilarious date ever and we're spending this coming weekend together. He's an former police officer of nearly 30 years and he's originally from the same state as the guy who ghosted me. He moved to my state in 2016. He is divorced and had a tough marriage like I did, so we could totally relate to each other on that front. We had both been with our spouses since we were very young. He is polar opposite of the last guy. Since our first date, his communication has INCREASED significantly. We have been texting practically all day every day since our date and we're counting down the hours until Friday, when we will be going out of town together for the weekend. He keeps thanking me for our amazing first date and saying how it has been many years since he's laughed that hard. It was so funny that we're both still laughing about it many days later. So many hilarious things happened during our date, and the last guy who I traveled 5 hours to meet was the butt of our jokes over dinner. I have never felt this amazing. He is so sweet and respectful. He wanted to make sure I was comfortable during our date. When he brought me home, he said he would come inside, but he wanted to respect boundaries. He definitely wasn't trying to sleep with me on the first date. We did kiss, which was amazing. He told me today that he can't stop thinking about me and he sent me a meme that said, "Falling in love is easy. Having sex is easier. But bumping into someone who can spark your soul is extremely rare." Yesterday, he said that he has never had this strong of an urge to spend time with somebody. We definitely seem to be having the exact same feelings and I feel very good about this. We both agreed that we would like to see where this goes and we are officially dating. It's also a million times easier since instead of being 300+ miles/5 hours away, he's only 35 miles/45 minutes away, so we can see each other whenever we want. I would slow down personally. The same thing that went down with other guy appears to be repeating itself with this new guy. Falling in love on the first date? Remind yourself what love bombing means and be careful. 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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