darkkraven06 Posted February 6 Share Posted February 6 I put break up in quotes because we weren’t officially a couple. A few months ago I started seeing this guy I met from a dating app. In the beginning he was super into me, but I ended up sleeping with him on the second date and after that he didn’t seem as interested. I was always the one reaching out and planning things. We have a large age difference. I am 25 and he is 42. Usually I don’t go out with older men, but we got along, and we had many things in common so I figured why not give it a go. So after the second “date” the red flags began. He would obsessively update his dating profile, and he would always do it right after we hung out, almost like clockwork. Then he started lying about little things like for example, to make small talk when we were together, I would ask what he did over the weekend. He would blatantly lie to my face about what he did/where he was. I knew he was lying because of social media. At this point, I didn’t really care as I noticed all the red flags and was only seeing him 2x a month so I wasn’t getting emotionally invested in this person. He also was extremely emotionally unavailable, never opened up to me or wanted to genuinely get to know me. Never complimented me. All of our “dates” consisted of getting food and then going to his place and hooking up. So it was definitely more of a hookup situation, and he was using me. A few weeks ago I reached out asking if he wanted to see me and he said he did, and that he would let me know. Well he never did. A week goes by and he texts me out of the blue saying sorry, he was “super busy” with work and that he wanted to return a book to me that I lent him. So I texted back telling him to just leave the book on his porch and I would pick it up. Another week passes with no response. I’m being totally ignored at this point. I’m confused and irritated. Yesterday he finally texted me back saying “Hi! Sorry for the lapse. Been really busy with work. Honestly I don’t have time for anything romantic btw. But I’ll definitely give you your book back.” I again text back telling him to leave it on his porch ( I live in a gated apartment community so he wouldn’t be able to easily drop it off at my place ) and tell him it’s fine about the “no time for romance” excuse and yet again, no response. I feel stupid that I stuck around this guy after all of the red flags, and I feel like he is still playing me like a fiddle with mind games even when he’s ending it. I don’t care about the book that much, but his behavior is confusing. I’m sure he found another girl, but why ignore my texts and be so uncommunicative when the texts are about simple things? He could have left it on his porch 3 weeks ago and this could have been over but I feel like he is prolonging it. I feel like I should get my book back but at the same time I don’t want to disrespect myself anymore. Quote Link to comment
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