Larissa1443 Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 I've (29F) been seeing this guy (30M) for about a month now, we've been on four dates and been talking everyday etc. Things seem to be going well and to be honest I haven't gotten "this far" with someone in a long time as it usually always ends with guys ghosting or not even taking me on a second date. Anyway, I'm anxiously attached and I've noticed I've started getting a bit weird about this new thing, so yesterday when we were hanging out I decided to ask him what he thinks about this and what he possibly wants out of it as I don't want casual and am looking for a relationship. He laughed and said he also wants a relationship but not sure if he wants it with me as we have only been on four dates, to which I agreed, because I also don't know him that well to say he's the one I want to be with. He also joked about saying that now that I brought this talk up, he isn't sure if he wants to hang out with me anymore and also that I'm expecting him to ask me to marry him to which I said he's getting it all wrong. I told him I've been with guys who have introduced me to all their family and friends (to which he then joked about how I'm "never meeting him mom which I found odd but ok) and then months down the line and when I vented about it to people, I got blamed and criticised for not being up front early on with what I wanted and not letting the guy know, for letting them "use me" and so on. So here I am, trying to be upfront about it, so I don't get possibly played. He said he wouldn't lead me on and he's not seeing other people but he does want to see where this goes, but it's only been four dates so it's too early to tell. I've got an awkward feeling about this, not sure if we'll continue seeing each other. I feel like he might've misunderstood me. This morning he left in a rush as he was late for work and then said "I'll text you later today" and we said goodbyes, but I'm getting this weird feeling that he won't and that I possibly ruined things? What do you think? If he doesn't text me today should I text him and try to explain myself again? I don't want to sound desperate and insecure but at the same time I felt less anxious after bringing that topic up and felt like I did the right thing, I just didn't expect him to react like that. I understand some might say it's too soon" but I've also had people tell me there's nothing wrong with saying and asking what they want/what you want early on. It's not saying you want a relationship with THEM but if they want casual, I'm not your person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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