Feelinglostsanduncertai Posted January 11 Share Posted January 11 In a bit of a quandary. My boyfriend of the last 18 months is compatible with me but he pushes for a commitment of living together in the area of town where he has lived for over 40 years and all of his friends and some family are located. At first, I thought this is something that was good for me and I can handle so I signed a lease with him which doesn’t expire for another 6 months. However, I have found that I’m not comfortable going from my home (and hometown) to an apt in a strange place where I don’t know anyone except an old girlfriend of mine. It may be different if he owned a home and I wasn’t moving into something so much smaller. I do enjoy spending time with him but I’m just not sure if this is too much for me. He asked me on New Year’s Eve if I would consider marrying again and told me that he wanted to marry me but we could discuss it after his son’s wedding in September. I’m not surprised he asked me since he has told me he enjoyed being married for almost 35 years (despite his wife asking for a divorce). I had a good experience too but I’m much older now and I may want to live elsewhere (possibly, closer to my family who live outside the area in another state). I don’t want to lose him but need to be honest so we aren’t wasting each other’s time. He’s the best guy I’ve dated in a very long time and we both love one another which is hard to find. Not sure there’s an easy way around this. Quote Link to comment
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