So close to the end

[Bigbedroom]

Leaving an unfaithful spouse. We've been stuck cohabitating due to financial constraints for the last 18 months. Now that I can finally afford to separate its been a real pain in the *** trying to find a suitable apartment. We have a child together so I can't just pick any old dump for us. Just missed out on 2 apartments. I could taste it, I was so close. They wanted me to do a walk thru before any paperwork is signed. I was out of town and couldn't. 

 

I felt so close to finally having some freedom. To be so close but still stuck has me feeling pretty down right now. That's all. I'm just venting.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, Bigbedroom said:

. We've been stuck cohabitating due to financial constraints for the last 18 months. 

Are you able to afford a divorce at this time? Perhaps look into more affordable alternatives. As long as you are legally married you'll be responsible for all the debt she incurs. So apartment hunting without legal divorce or separation may have consequences. 

[Days and Confused]

If there's one thing I learned in life,

"Don't rush it!"

Things will work out when they are supposed to.  Anytime I have forced change, without due diligence, I have regretted it most of the time.

Definitely get legal advice before leaving your home, very important!!

[Lambert]

When we're so close and we miss an opportunity it's a sign that you're next. it's coming! choose to look at it as divine intervention. Some thing better is coming! hang in here!

[Bigbedroom]

10 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Are you able to afford a divorce at this time? Perhaps look into more affordable alternatives. As long as you are legally married you'll be responsible for all the debt she incurs. So apartment hunting without legal divorce or separation may have consequences. 

We had a house together that we had difficulty selling. It finally sold in November. I spoke with a lawyer, child support will be 1200-1300. She works part time, won't look for a better paying job, refuses to apply for low income subsidies which she'll need once I move out. I don't want my daughter being forced to live in squalor when she's with her mother.

[Batya33]

19 hours ago, Bigbedroom said:

We had a house together that we had difficulty selling. It finally sold in November. I spoke with a lawyer, child support will be 1200-1300. She works part time, won't look for a better paying job, refuses to apply for low income subsidies which she'll need once I move out. I don't want my daughter being forced to live in squalor when she's with her mother.

I would speak with lawyer as far as if her refusal to work/apply for government help affects your obligations

[Betterwithout]

On 1/9/2023 at 3:05 AM, Bigbedroom said:

Leaving an unfaithful spouse.

^ Best thing you did.  Remember that.

Whatever hoops you have to jump through now will be "just business"
Your heart and integrity are hopefully intact.  Focus on being an awesome parent to your child and whatever you do....don't bash your spouse.   Her future will be likely be built on sand, and full of empty promises and unmet expectations.