Nebraskagirl14 Posted January 2 Share Posted January 2 Hi, all- My girlfriend of many months (we're lesbians) has a friend that I find really unsavory. She is also gay. There are other details I'll keep private, but she has a long-term partner that she has be unfaithful to emotionally. I'll just say that while I know my girlfriend isn't attracted to her and has friend-zoned her, the woman feels some kind of ownership over my girlfriend and has gotten pissed anytime my gf has dated anyone. My girlfriend stands up to her, but I think my girlfriend's solution, rather than to just dump this controlling woman out of her life, has been to limit how much she tells her about our relationship and about me. Okay, sure. Perhaps she is protecting our relationship, but it feels more like she is protecting this woman and probably just doesn't want the friend to get jealous and walk away. It really doesn't feel like it's about me. My girlfriend loves me and wants to be with me. That isn't the issue. The issue is that she texts this other woman every day and while I don't think the conversations are inappropriate in any way, it just feels really icky. I have addressed it with her several times and nothing changes. I also don't feel it's my place to control her friendships. This woman lives in another state and so they don't see each other, but, for example, my girlfriend will text this woman a picture of something we are doing but not mention WE are there together. I really find this a problem and I have no idea how to really address it. Thanks for any help! Quote Link to comment
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