Ashley Lana Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 I am very confused in this relationship. He is 40 I am 34. We both live in Wisconsin, but we live an hour and a half away. I'm a fitness model/ influencer with 500,000 social media followers (my user name isn't my real name) and he is a lawyer. We met and started dating in late October of this year. He's a very busy guy, he works at a law firm and is constantly dealing with clients. He's been busy since I met him. He's a terrible texter but he tries to make more of an effort whenever I ask him to. I was very harsh toward him when we first started dating. Not rude, but very much skeptical of him, as I am skeptical of all men in the beginning of the dating stages. Despite my skeptical and almost rude behavior toward him, he steadily pursued me. He continuously asked me out on dates. I cancelled on him our first three dates, I kid you not. And before each date, he had to call and convince me to go out with him. After the third date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes. When we are in person, he is loving and doting, and so sweet. He pays for fancy dinners and our conversations are great. He does all the driving. He drives an hour and half to my place to pick me up, take us to the restaurant, drops me off afterward and then an hour and a half to drive back to his place. He always sets up dates to see me, and they are always nice dates to expensive places. We don't talk on the phone much in between dates. Maybe once a week we talk on the phone. but we text everyday and he texts me good morning and good night everyday, and we exchange maybe 10 texts a day. To me this isn't a sufficient amount of communication, but we do see each other once or twice a week. We spent all of Christmas Eve together. He spent Christmas with his siblings and his mother, and I spent it with my family. Two weeks ago, he told me that he wants to be married to me and have me pregnant within a year. I was a little caught off guard, because for the life of me.. I can't tell if this man likes me.. Yes in person he tells me how much he likes me and adores me and he's sweet, he drives an hour and a half to see me, and an hour and a half back to his place. He takes me to nice places and pays and never complains. But why doesn't he call me more often and text me more often on the days that we don't see each other? Well last week do you know what he told me? He told me that he's going to move, so that he only lives 20 minutes away from me. Again. I was shocked... Because we only text maybe 10 times a day when we aren't together. And we don't talk on the phone more than once or twice a week..The lack of communication when we aren't together, makes me feel insecure and like he doesn't take me seriously. I told him this. He then asked me why I would think this? He said that he drives an hour and a half to see me, and an hour and a half back. He pointed out that he's not getting sex from me, so clearly he's not using me for my body, he's told me on multiple occasions that he is very into me and he likes me. When I complained about one of the restaurants he took me to not being fancy enough, he took me to a fancier one the next week. If I complain, he makes adjustments. But what I can't understand is why we don't talk frequently during the week? Sometimes I'm a little shocked when I notice he actually gets a little jealous? Whenever he comes to my apartments, if he sees a pair of my high heels by the door, he'll ask me where I wore them to. And I notice whenever he comes to my place he's always checking to see what shoes I have by the door, to see what shoes I've worn outside lately. I told a story about a weird interaction I had with my neighbor, and he kept asking "is he single? does he have a family? does he live by himself?" and it shocked me that he seemed a little jealous? because he always plays it so cool, I mean in texts anyway. he doesn't text back right away and he barely calls. And the day after Christmas, he stopped texting me around 4 pm and texted me early the next morning around 6 am. He said he was spending time with his family (mother and siblings and nieces/nephews)... So what do you all think? Do you think he's serious about me or playing me? Quote Link to comment
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